"do as I say, not as I do" approach to parenting
Most parents do make this kind of mistake, instead of them being an example of a particular thing all they do is give commands on it believing they have more experience in life than the children.
And children want more of a demonstrated action than being commanded when making decisions.
People love power - parenting is a power - but for those who truly want their children to be happy throughout life, it is better not to control, but provide the tools for self-control.
'Parenting is power'. I don't personally like being boss around without purpose.
Thanks for this reply, I so admire it.