Hello!
I found your post through PYPT that @Shadowspub runs every Thursday on Discord.
I am known as a nice person. I have been called TOO nice, also. I have been called TOO HAPPY too. It's been said I laugh too much and am too kind. Some saw these things as being fake and told me so to my face. This always made me laugh even more.
Being nice doesn't mean you have to let people walk all over you. You can say NO to anything you want and still be nice. YOU have to set your limitations. It's up to you to not let people walk all over you, but you can nicely do this.
How you word something matters when telling someone you can not help them in the way they ask. You can advise the person on how they can achieve what they want. That is still being nice but also not giving someone a handout.
so an example:
I am sorry, I can not loan you any money, but maybe Miss Oldish Lady might have some chores she needs help with and is willing to offer payment.
It is not exactly what the person is asking you for. You are not handing over money on the spot but showing them in a nice way how they can learn to start taking care of themselves and help others in the process.
Once word gets out that you do not hand out money, as an example, but offer great advice, you will be surprised at how others see you.
Being NICE IS a GREAT thing. I am proud people think I am. I love bringing happiness to others but am far from being used by others. If someone tries to take advantage of my kindness, that is the last they will see of me.
The bottom line is you can be kind and nice and all those good words without being a pushover. It is up to you to set boundaries on what you are willing to do to help those people around you.
Good advice can be worth more than money in someone's hand.
Very thought-provoking post!!
In agreement, all one can guide, assist and advice so that one can upgrade themselves. And must need to forward that to others.
I like your comment, deep and detailed.
Thanks and love the way you express your thoughts, very productive for the readers.