NICE is a word that is used often to compliment. For me, nice is not a compliment, but more of something negative that I don't want to be anymore. I want to be something better than just nice.
What is Nice?
In our society, 'nice' is often seen as a compliment. But for some people, being nice is a liability.
Being nice means being agreeable, pleasant, and kind. It's the type of personality that makes everyone feel comfortable and at ease. And while that may sound like a good thing, it can actually be quite difficult to maintain.
Nice people are often taken advantage of because they're too afraid to say no. They might also avoid conflict because they don't want to upset anyone. As a result, they can end up in situations that are not ideal for them.
So if you're someone who is always trying to be nice, remember that it's okay to put yourself first sometimes. It's not selfish to take care of yourself; it's actually quite necessary.
Why Nice is not an asset
It is not a compliment to be called nice. It is a liability.
When we are nice, we allow others to take advantage of us. We give them our time, energy and resources without expecting anything in return. We enable them to continue their bad behavior by being too nice to them.
Being nice also makes us appear weak and vulnerable. People will see us as someone they can easily manipulate and control. They will take advantage of our good naturedness and use it against us.
Lastly, being nice puts us in a subservient position. People will think that we are doormats who are there to serve them and meet their needs. They will not respect us or treat us as equal partners.
So next time someone calls you nice, don't take it as a compliment. It is actually a liability that can hold you back in life.
Why Nice is a liability
When I was younger, I naively believed that being nice made me a good person. I thought that as long as I was polite and considerate to others, they would automatically do the same in return. Unfortunately, I soon learned that this is not always the case.
Being too nice can actually be a liability, because it can make you a target for those who take advantage of others. If you're always putting yourself in other people's shoes and trying to help them out, chances are there are those who will take advantage of your good nature.
It's important to be able to say 'no' when you need to, and to put your own needs first occasionally. Otherwise, you'll end up getting taken advantage of and ending up feeling used and resentful.
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The truth about nice.
Basically ask yourself this question. Who is nice (yourself excluded). Take for instance someone like Jordan B Peterson. Now many people might say he is a nice guy. I would agree with that as far as he is also not a bad guy. That doesn't make him nice.
I can be known to do nice thing. Or maybe I should say nice thing as others see I do. In truth I cannot recall one nice thing I have done. Some might say well the sending of HIVE to so so when needed was nice. But was it? is that person now owed to me for some stupid reason in my head. They do not know what I think. Did I do it to look good so someone else might see Oh he is a nice guy support him.
I have helped quite a few people here on the Hive Blockchain. As in my normal daily life I do the same. In my times of need. There is never anyone there. All I have met is vultures and thieves. Yet I still continue to help others. I have one goal in helping. Finding that one who will help back without request.
Trust me now on this part. I have not read all of your post. I know all of your thoughts from the first paragraph. Do not try to stop yourself. The question to ask yourself is this. Why do you be that nasty word to others? Maybe, a balance is needed and you do not be as nice to everyone. But remain nice. Trying not to be who you are will twist and contort your spirit.
Oh and if ye want to voice it out, I can do that on Discord. https://discord.gg/sz4dpPBa or DM TheHive#4070
It's all about what we actually think and how we want to be.... Those are nice, they remain as it is without any complains.
I suggest to go through the full blog as you can't get an idea from the initial para...
I love to express what I exact thoughts I have so one can read and get pleasure and share their thoughts... Most of the readers relates with their thoughts.
I bet I have everything covered.
Not an asset it is a liability.
You are in the wrong rabbit hole.
Hello!
I found your post through PYPT that @Shadowspub runs every Thursday on Discord.
I am known as a nice person. I have been called TOO nice, also. I have been called TOO HAPPY too. It's been said I laugh too much and am too kind. Some saw these things as being fake and told me so to my face. This always made me laugh even more.
Being nice doesn't mean you have to let people walk all over you. You can say NO to anything you want and still be nice. YOU have to set your limitations. It's up to you to not let people walk all over you, but you can nicely do this.
How you word something matters when telling someone you can not help them in the way they ask. You can advise the person on how they can achieve what they want. That is still being nice but also not giving someone a handout.
so an example:
It is not exactly what the person is asking you for. You are not handing over money on the spot but showing them in a nice way how they can learn to start taking care of themselves and help others in the process.
Once word gets out that you do not hand out money, as an example, but offer great advice, you will be surprised at how others see you.
Being NICE IS a GREAT thing. I am proud people think I am. I love bringing happiness to others but am far from being used by others. If someone tries to take advantage of my kindness, that is the last they will see of me.
The bottom line is you can be kind and nice and all those good words without being a pushover. It is up to you to set boundaries on what you are willing to do to help those people around you.
Good advice can be worth more than money in someone's hand.
Very thought-provoking post!!
In agreement, all one can guide, assist and advice so that one can upgrade themselves. And must need to forward that to others.
I like your comment, deep and detailed.
Thanks and love the way you express your thoughts, very productive for the readers.
Hiya.. 😃
Being nice is only a liability, if choose it to be so. If someone wants to be a rug and get walked on, that is their choice and theirs alone. Will people take advantage if you let them? Ya damned skippy they will!
As they say where I am from.. don't get it twisted. 😄
I can be the meanest sob you ever did meet.. or the nicest. I choose to be nice most of the time.. unless you step on my toes then you get the other guy. I learned a long time ago The Power of NO.
Can I get a date with your Daughter.... ugghh.. hell no.
Can I borrow a cup of sugar and an egg for this recipe till I get to the store? Yes.. sure thing.. just hit me back when you return. Or I could say I can't help you and still be nice, seeing as how I don't have an egg currently. LoL.
I choose to be nice, because that is who I am most times. But we all have our days sometimes. I used to be a rug a long time ago.. but that ship has sailed. 😉
Have a great day/evening.
Thanks @inthenow, I wish the breed like you should increased. Be nice and the people avail the niceness from you!
Indeed! Nice to meet you(in an online kinda way) @shahzad-ansari. 😃
I really enjoy the hive.blog and the way that it encourages conversations between users. I'm glad that we are finally following each other so that we can continue to engage in thoughtful discussion. Thanks @inthenow for initiating the conversation!
No one owes you anything.. be nice to your self only hehe.
Thank you so much for the best advice ever 😁
I m glad you see it that way
The day I realise that.. my life got better.
Whatever I go from people it's strictly by chance. I m only entitle to my self. And it's not being selfish, its rather selfness.
This opens my mind to what 'nice' actually means. Maybe just choose people to whom you'll be nice.
Yes, sometimes I feels like we have to.
This really got to me, and off course I totally agree with you. Thank you for sharing Mr shahzad-ansari [Mr Shrazi's Bro[🙂
Thank you
Great read, I completely agree being nice (highly agreeable) is also considered a weakness. It takes a lot of courage to say no to others, it also shows confidence in your ability and sticking to what you believe.
Thanks for the comment! I appreciate your feedback and am glad you enjoyed the article. It can be tough to know how to say no sometimes, but it's important to be assertive and polite at the same time.
you are right, being nice makes some set of people trample on you, this is one of the reason i build a wall around me so not everyone have the chance to use my niceness against me.. it is a fucking world and people won't treat you the same way you treat them... even though some will appreciate your niceness but the users are more than those who appreciate...
It's a sad reality of the world we live in, but it's important to be aware of it.
HEHE Nice blog 🤣
I understand and agreed with it, but I desperately want to know... what's the reason for this blog (anything happened again)... or you just shared your thoughts? 😆
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Happy Birthday 🎂🎂🎂🎂 @shrazi
Thank you Thank you 😁🙏
@shrazi You caught me right.
Something happened exactly that made me share this blog post.
I'm not looking for compliments anymore. I don't need them, and they don't mean anything to me. In fact, I find them to be a liability. They make me feel obligated to return the favor, which often puts me in an uncomfortable position. If you want to be nice to me, just do something nice without expecting anything in return. That's all I ask.
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