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This trait is typical of psychopathy and narcissism and provides the mother with an advantage: people perceive her as engaging and charismatic, often dismissing or excusing her harsh or insensible behavior. Such disparity between public persona and private actions leaves children bewildered, questioning their perceptions and reality.
Impact on Children
Children of such mothers often internalize messages that they are inherently flawed. The mother’s behavior communicates a dual reality: she is loved and admired by the outside world, yet she is often unkind or even cruel behind closed doors. This contrast fosters confusion, self-doubt, and feelings of unworthiness in children.