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Even if a person appears confident and successful externally, these internal voices can undermine their self-esteem, leading to persistent feelings of insufficiency and self-doubt. Recovery or overcoming these ingrained tapes can be challenging and requires conscious effort and therapeutic intervention.
The Underlying Message: Failure to Reach True Intimacy
A recurring theme in these dysfunctional relationships is the child's inability to reach genuine intimacy with the mother. Attempts to meet her needs or satisfy her expectations often result in feelings of suffocation or threat, prompting her to reverse her role—expressing anger, contempt, or rejection.
Compulsive Approach-Avoidance Cycles