Of course, the decision will be one hundred percent ours, I just thought it would be a good conversation topic for something different to the usual posts I make. Clearly I'm not inclined to divulge my true position so it would be impossible for others to make much sense of it. There's been some good comments though.
Losing people is always difficult whether it's cancer or otherwise and you're right, it's what one does when they're here that counts. I lost my dad two months ago and have cared for him since my mum died in 2004...I feel confident we did as much as we could.
Thanks for commenting, I appreciate it.