Flexibility makes a big difference. I am lucky in the sense that I do have flexibility to some degree in my work, as long as I get what I need to do, done. Now, I have a little more leeway, as I can pick and choose what is suitable at this time.
If you'd been able to look into my life pre-family I think you would have just been shaking your head wondering how I survived XD
What changed once you had a family?
Have you managed to get back into the swing of things alright?
Taking it easy this week, talking with people, sifting emails, seeing what has changed (software, organisation, customer etc). I feel disjointed and a bit guilty for not being able to just pick up and run like normal.
There was someone else who could do all the stuff I was barely keeping on top of (but which had to be kept on top of when adulting, like maintaining a stable income and budgeting and groceries and bills and whatnot) much more efficiently.
Now I'm just barely keeping on top of the child wrangling (which at this stage compromises entirely of being aware of where everyone is right this second and where they need to be at any given point in the future).
Disjointed is normal and expected, and I'm not surprised you feel guilty but it is a waste of brainspace in these circumstances :)
Ah - you got a secretary! ;D