I am clear that being social beings it is normal to seek the approval of people in certain social situations, that we ask people's opinion about making a decision is normal, but in the end this should be based on our preferences, taking into account that consulting others is adaptive and healthy.
But:
I don't understand people who seek acceptance from everyone.
Acceptance from others becomes a must, and leads people to submit to the opinion of others. This prevents behavior in a natural way, based on our own convictions and decisions.
The need for acceptance causes many things to be done unconsciously, and when this is not achieved there are people who feel rejected, showing low self-esteem because they think that others are worth more than them, they feel lonely, afraid of not being recognized in the social area or at work, and tend to be conformists.
When we have our own criteria it is often possible that some people do not accept us, however, this is an indication that we do not let ourselves be carried away so easily by the majority, we decide with autonomy and our own arguments and we accept the good or bad consequences that all this entails.
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I know people who always say yes to everything that is asked of them, try to look good with everyone, appreciate others' ideas more than their own, agree to do tasks or favors they don't want to do, and don't ask for help from others so as not to bother.
If they are not accepted these people develop a feeling of guilt and low self-esteem, I could not explain why we betray ourselves by not doing something we want, to do something that others want even if we know that our criteria is correct.
We must submit situations to our own criteria, which we are forging with our experience and our reflections, do not live experiences or other people's lives because we will not learn anything from that. We must develop critical and creative thinking, which is fundamental and very necessary to be able to live. This helps us to act in a reasoned, premeditated and studied way and to be stronger and firmer in our present and future decisions.
We should not be afraid to give an opinion since it is possible to listen to different points of view to reinforce or reject our ideas. Everyone has a criterion and we have the right to be confused and to learn to make decisions and the fact that someone gets upset, rejects our opinion or does not like something about us is normal. It is impossible for everyone to like our opinions or our person, and besides people are free to accept us as we are, they should also respect our opinion even if they do not share it.
I believe in freedom and free will, I do not support groups or societies that are not framed within my criteria of upbringing and established moral values. I accept criticism that helps me to improve and to obtain greater skills and experiences, I behave according to my upbringing and try to help others according to my possibilities, if they accept me as I am, I am satisfied, if not, I do not worry, because I know that I have personality and I am able to handle rejection without attacking my self-esteem and my convictions.
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Finish the sentence (second choice).
Below you have the beginning of a sentence to finish. Explain what it is about and why you answered the way you did.
"I don't understand people who..."
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To this notion, I clarified it as fear, people who show low self-esteem are confronted by fear, that is why they allow theirself below others and can not stand to their opinion.
The causes of this is as a result of poverty and thinking that if they should tried to stand up to their opinion, they may loose everything.
Fear is often used by people as a weapon that does not let us act, but people must face it, if we do not do something or defend our ideas and opinions how will we know if we will get out of poverty and earn more, or if there are many people who agree with us but had not heard our proposals. Thank you for stopping by and giving your opinion. Greetings.
That's so true, Peoples need to stand firm on their ground.
Greetings again Nelson (@nbarrios67).
Interesting letters where you mention those who do not take a step on their own initiative, who depend on what others will say; those will never be entrepreneurs and will make their life a waste of time.
An entrepreneur will always have someone who will tell him that he will not succeed, but that does not stop him. If you are sure of yourself, if you have analyzed the whole thing, you should get ahead. This does not mean that someone else's criteria should not be welcomed, but you must be very clear in your ideas, take the good things from others, add them to your own and be successful.
I congratulate you on this excellent participation.
Hi @germanandradeg. I agree 100% with your comment, the saying came to my mind : nobody sees pretty eyes in another's face. We must motivate ourselves and dare to undertake, if we do not do it and we let ourselves be carried away by others as simple sheep as we will know if we are right or not. Greetings and thanks for stopping by.
I totally agree with you @nbarrios67 . I hate that myself. I tend to be attracted to people who don't really care what people think of them.
When a person accepts another person as they are without really caring what others think of them, I can tell you that you have found a true friend. There is a reason for free will. Thank you for appreciating my publication. Best regards!