Thank you, I am glad that you see it as what it was meant to be, an encouraging story. I love it when people tell stories from their lives, and it's those events that were difficult, where you had to clear some rocks out of the way first, or where it was downright hopeless or even dangerous situations that you came out of alive. When they happen, it's crap, but when they're behind you, the crap turns into gold. HaHa!
If there were only sugar and easy events, we would be without the contrast. No one would have anything of significance to tell. People do like to moan about bad times, but if they didn't experience and go through the bad times, they would never get into the fairway of the good moments in life. In between all this is the banal everyday life, which is probably the biggest challenge of all because nothing else interesting happens in it.
I see these two extremes as a field of tension in which every individual moves. However, it would be good to expand this by something that is not within the tension, but completely outside of "dramatic up to the ears" and "boring to death". But because this is of little interest and the recipient prefers to stay within the tension, we have these conflicts on both a personal and an overarching level and the apocalypse is already beckoning around every corner, even though for others it is the paradise that awaits them. I think both are unrealistic. LOL
step outside of their comfort zones. That if they truly want to do something, they don't have to accept that the doors are closed..
Yes. I would add that to open doors, it's like shooting at the goal with a ball. You have to shoot ten times to score three times. If you don't shoot at all, there is nothing to hit. But if you keep shooting with gritted teeth because you're angry or afraid, even twenty shots won't help because you won't hit it once. So each shot is like the famous blank page, always to be considered separately as a completely new situation, without taking into account what has gone before. Loosely from the hip, we call this.
It's difficult when you want it too much and only becomes easy when you get into a mental state where you want it but also don't want it. HaHa! If you know what I mean?