If only said,
This is what we usually do.
What I'm trying to explain is that while we occasionally feel envious or angry when we see others happy, it's not because we disagree with their happiness but rather because we don't feel pleased ourselves.
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I'll continue to illustrate this with an example.
There are many who appear to be cheerful but are actually sad. When these are revealed, they are pretty evident and pathetic. And then there are those who are simply in content. Happy! 😇
Since they are comfortable with themselves and their surroundings and are able to love and give to others, those who are truly happy do not deserve to be hated. But there are some people just don't agree with the statement.
People who are unhappy with themselves or who obtain their happiness at the expense of others are the ones who despise truly happy people. They are aggressive, prone to jealousy, and motivated by a desire to bring others down to their level so that they can match their own.
Their fear of losing, (for them it's like a competition) even when no one is actively attempting to do so, is the source of their hatred for the happy ones. They project their own negative feelings about themselves onto others by viewing them through their own spiteful lens.
They are the one who should be despised. People who are happy with their lives appreciate themselves, other people, and themselves. But that doesn't mean they are 24/7 happy. It just how they see things positively and even in bad circumstances, they will try to appreciate the bad things as a lesson. As in my religion, we called it "Qadha and Qadar". The words 'Qadha' and 'Qadar' means for fate and destiny are in Arabic.
My circumstances sometimes maybe difficult. It could be a job loss, a family argument, a breakup, an inability to do something, or any other form of work-related annoyance. Anything maybe it.
At that point, we perceive someone who has a "perfect" family, a fantastic job, a nice relationship, and manages to have fun while focusing on their goals. Then we often start to feel envious or self-conscious and get angry.
I just stated here that you are not a bad person because of it. Simply because you have experienced difficulties in life does not necessarily indicate that you are angry with that person. Your predicament and the setbacks you are experiencing are the only things that have irritated you.
However, imagine someone else in your position.
Perhaps seeing that you at least have a family, a career, and a purpose to work for. There are some people looking for what you have. Imagine people seeing you and reflecting on your straightforward and well-organized life.
What I'm trying to say is that what we see isn't necessarily real. No job is flawless. Every household is not ideal. Nobody is flawless. And nobody can judge what body type is ideal for you.
There are problems everywhere you look. Everyone has their own unique set of problems with things, just as you do. So, consider what you currently have or what is still available, not in regard to what has already occurred. Although you cannot change that, you can alter the present and future events that will affect you.
As you navigate the conditions of your life, remember that there is a KEY to happiness. What's the secret?
The KEY really consists of two sections. The first is that neither "having nothing" nor "having everything" are genuinely possible. When you believe you have nothing, you are misinterpreting the reality of your situation.
The second piece of the KEY is this. If your heart is full of love for other people and your thoughts are on their happiness, it is difficult to be miserable.
In the end, love—not necessarily "being in love" (though it may definitely enhance your mood) but loving others and loving yourself—is what makes people happy. This is actually the secret to happiness.
Everything else seems to be irrelevant.
I want you to discover another secret that will assist you in locating and employing the KEY. If you manage to solve it, please let me know. Hint: It is not challenging.
Please keep this in mind. Just don't hate me with all my happiness. I had a bad day as well, but I didn't want to share it with everyone. And with that, I'll leave you.
