I agree with you, it'll come. I'd rather it was organic than forced.
We just got a lovely message from one of dad's students from 1955 (his first class). The young lad joined the military and became a Brigadier-General...He came from a very poor Malaysian family and dad supported and helped him through school, even bringing his family food. He credits my dad with his rise from poverty and his successful life.
Nice to receive his message. I will read it at the funeral.