This guy has been dating this lady for a year now. He thought it would lead in marriage but every time he tried to say something in that line, she either avoids the topic or brushes it off. It is easier to think maybe she wasn’t ready. Of course, marriage talk isn’t something anyone would just dabble into without extra caution and determination. If you can’t stand the heat, kindly leave the kitchen or better still, make your house well ventilated with classy air conditioning. Hahaha.
She would always brush it off and it left this guy in a confused state. He couldn’t understand but the confusion cleared up when it was crystal clear that he is just an interim boyfriend. She clearly told him on a few occasions that ”My parents won’t accept you” and ”I am not promising you marriage, Mike”. What else do you need? This isn’t a state of resilience or fighting for her but a clear case of ”You are not my kind of guy but I am scared of being alone. Just stand in till the right person come along” scenario. She wouldn’t talk marriage, she told you on several occasions the aforementioned statements and yet she still goes out with you and still wouldn’t make up her mind after a year?
The problem goes both ways. Either the guy has not been able to convince her in a year which is totally bad, or the girl isn’t sure of what she wants which is equally bad. I am always pained when a guy leads a lady in the wrong direction or when a lady leads a guy in the wrong direction. A lot of people don’t know that other people’s emotions are involved in this too, so why let selfishness blind you? I love being practical and I always try to assess situations from different angles. You don’t want him and yet you don’t want to let go. There are some decisions that you need to make and the one that doesn’t go down well with you should be addressed spot on.
If this lady doesn’t want him because she feels her future is not secured, that is absolutely fine, because destiny is not emotional. You have to do what is best for you. My issue is since you know, why don’t you just let him go? You can’t be totally clueless as not to gather a prompting in your heart to know if you want to settle with him or not, after a year. The issue with most relationships is they leave their options open. I understand that because of either past experiences or any other thing, but I will always stick behind people speaking their mind upfront.
This lady must have given this guy several warning signs and yet he is not taking heed. I always tell people to into relationships with their head too, rather than just their heart. A lot of issues we experience these days, the warning signs have always been there, but due to our heart, we don’t take heed. I am not saying it is bad to stick around and try to make things work, of course, I am all for that, absolutely, but you need to address the issue head-on and know where you are heading first. In every relationship, you need a clear vision and purpose. No one likes to waste their time, emotions and even resources.
...to be continued...
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