One topic that is always very funny to me, maybe because most of us have passed through that stage.
At a point in our life, we were all praying to become adults so that we could also have the freedom to do what we like, have the peace of living alone, and take our decisions alone. But on the other hand, we never knew that having this freedom is fun but comes with its own bills and consequences. Having the freedom to take personal decisions also means you must be ready to face the consequences of those decisions when they come. Praying to stay alone means you are an adult, and you must be ready to foot your bills as an adult.
Now these are the things they never told us, we only get to have the first-hand experience inside adulthood. And when it does not play out as a bed of roses as we all expected, that is when you hear adulthood na scam, just because what you ordered for is not what life gave you. And that is what most of us have passed through.
I remember when I was much younger, staying with my parents at times was annoying, because the little errands they sent me felt as if they were sending me everything in the world. The discipline felt as if they hated me. Whenever I needed something and they could not provide it immediately or could not provide it at all, I felt they purposely refused to, that they had the money. I never knew that their calculation for our survival and the bills they had to fix were what occupied their minds, but my mind was thinking otherwise.
Well, I never grew up as a rich kid from a wealthy background, but I can always say that my parents tried their very best for us. They played their role very well as parents in terms of discipline, provision, and support. But the funny part is, at that tender age, we thought they were not trying. It is later in life that we get to appreciate that effort of theirs, maybe because life is now facing us directly and we are also facing life squarely. I grew up at the time when my parents were paying 400 to 500 naira for a single room. In that compound, we had another tenant with his family staying there, and I think as at then, he was the richest in the compound, because aside from the landlord, he was the only person who rented something similar to a flat then, a parlor, a room, and a kitchen, then another apartment and two rooms for his business. He was a doctor, so he operated the business in that same compound.
So he was rich because he had this video machine and radio that played with cassette. He was the only tenant with a semi-colored television as at then. My father had one box black and white TV that was never clear, and the other tenant’s own was also mono-color, but at times everything would turn green. So the doctor was the only person with a colored television that had a very big back. Whenever there was light, we would all queue up at his window to watch movies.
But in all these, we expected our parents to do the same and provide for us the same way the doctor provided for his kids, but we never knew life was not like that. I remember a day my father flogged me, and I packed my clothes and threatened to leave the house. That nonsense act of mine ended with more floggings later that night, because when it comes to discipline, I give my father A1 for that. Those who know him can testify to this. Even when you sight him, you might think he is an army man, but the man never stayed in the barracks.
In all these, we grew up to enter this adulthood thing, and today we now understand better what they passed through. We were the ones worrying them to buy television, but most of us now have televisions in our homes, yet we do not remember the last time we turned them on to watch. Most of us were praying to have the freedom to stay alone, but now, any day you go back to your parents’ house, it feels like heaven because that is where free food lies, and you rest a little. Most of us were praying for the freedom to stay alone so that we would not be sent on any errands, but staying alone now makes the situation worse, because there are times you wake up and remain busy till nightfall. That is life, we get to appreciate some things later. Adulthood no be beans, but we will all survive it and come out strong.
Most of us while growing up thought adulthood is full of freedom and enjoyment, Not knowing that it comes with lots of responsibilities
A whole lot of responsibilities
It's in adulthood that we understand and appreciate the efforts of our
Very true
The responsibility of adulthood is much compared to when we use to nag. Thanks for sharing.
Ahahaha yes oo.
Thanks for read