Growing up, this is one of the messages that made our parents up their discipline game with us. You can and should never be a disgrace to the family name. You shouldn't even try to drag the family's name in the mud. So, mothers will always give you warning looks in their eyes when you are defiant and fathers will treat your stubbornness with rods, or whips. Either way, you will get what you are looking for... punishments
Punishments are meant to set you up in the right direction. The whole thing was so you never become wayward, and destroy your future. Our parents had good plans for us, a great future, mostly to become someone of good reputation, and status, so you can lift the family off poverty or whatever it was you guys were suffering from.
No one ever saw any child who took the bad route turning out to be any good no matter how hard they tried. The blood of disobedience and bad behaviors never allows them to go scout free. So in family histories and notebooks, you will listen to your parents point out a few persons who towed the wrong path and how they ended up. At the same time, you will be opportune to be given examples of those who valued the lessons their parents nailed into them and how they ended up too.
So, you were given a choice, choose one or the other, but remember you will bear the consequences. Somehow, our parents never wanted us to tow the wrong path. Deep down they want the best for us. This could be because of the mistakes they did in the past which they regretted so much and wouldn't want to see their children do the same. Or it could be lessons they picked up from others as they journeyed through life. So, they use the rod to straighten any child that the devil (that's how parents say it) wants to use as a channel of disgrace to the family.
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To make it more effective, they had the scripture to back up their actions, Proverbs, 13:24, and although we children saw the rod as punishment, the real thing was that the rod was supposed to be a guide. The pain you feel when you are hit by one is supposed to be a guiding light to what life will give you if you do not change your ways. The pain life will give is definitely going to be more hurtful, leaving lasting pains, and regrets. So it was better to be guided by a rod, whose pain was temporary but can send the right message across.
The scripture directly explains, any parent who hesitates to use the rod to guide their children truly hates them and there is no iota of love for them. Writing this, I believe the scripture is right because children whose parents pampered and never disciplined them when they were wrong ended up on the wrong side of life. And they suffered consequences and eventualities that led them to hating their parents. This is as a result of the lasting pains that life gave them because their parents refused to give them the temporary pain to warn them.
And I have heard stories of children whose mothers for instance did not allow their children to be disciplined by their fathers because of how painful the childbirth was, got gunned down by the same child. The reality is that these children knowing that they had their mother's backing did whatever they wanted and this led to a life of crime, and one such instance, their friends lured them into robbing their parents and then killing them if they recognize their faces or their voices.
Another story had a boy who led a life of crime and whom life dealt with mercilessly, and on the day he was to be executed for the crimes he had committed, he asked to speak to his mum... when she arrived, the story had it that he bit off the woman's ear.
I have not seen any family whose parents did not do the needful with raising their kids getting a good thing out of it. Even the current movie I am watching, Wura, has a family with a son called Mide, and another family with a son called, Femi. Both families suffer from the consequences of sparing the rod and thus, spoiling their children. It was one disaster after another because ideally, a lazy man is a devil's workshop.
So, with all due respect, every parent should be encouraged to not spare the rod when it comes to their children no matter how difficult the years of waiting for the child was, no matter how painful the childbirth was, no matter the mockery they survived before they finally had the child. This is to protect these children from life's permanent pains.
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Not instilling discipline from a young age will surely lead to more pain and suffering in the future. Parents need to learn to instill discipline. And at times the only easy way is through the rod.
Great writing skills as always edy
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Thank you b0s, especially for visiting.
Yep, parents have to instill good morals from a tender age, so we would become a source of joy to them in the future.
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When parents discipline a child, the child may feel that the parents are too strict on him but will end up realizing how much love the parents showed him later in life. Children may feel the pain at the time of discipline, but the result of our actions at the end is what should be taken into consideration and not necessarily how the child feels.
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Our parents loved us so much and they wanted nothing but the best for us. So every punishment was for our good.
Thank you, Momma for visiting. 😍
I completely agree with you. Our parents instilled discipline in us to ensure we never became a disgrace to the family name. Punishments may have seemed harsh at the time, but they were meant to set us on the right path and ensure we had a bright future
I am so happy you agreed. And you summarized my entire post in a few sentences. I am pleased you read thoroughly. Thank you.
No thanks to you for what you wrote
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It is the dream of every parent to see their children grow up to become great and this is one of the reasons why parents inculcate discipline in their children. We have had many stories like you have shared and even many of us are living testimonies to the importance of discipline.
The Bible emphasize greatly on the need for disciple and any parent who refused to play their part will bear the consequences as well.
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Thank you George.
Yes, our parent want the best for us and their discipline did play a great role in our lives.
The Bible is a lamp unto our path, they say.
Thank you for visiting.
Very true the reason for the discipline was for us to become better and not coward, it's is the joy of every parents to see their children become successful in life and that is as a result of good upbringing
I agree, the joy of every parent is to see their children succeed. Thank you for visiting
Not disciplining a child or correcting their mistakes and expecting them to turn out well in the future is like not washing a bitter leaf and expecting it not to taste bitter in the mouth.
And when this happens such children become a problem for the whole of society.
Do not spare the rod and spoiled the child.
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No parent should spare the rod else the child will be spoilt. I love how you related this to bitter leaf. Thank you for reading
When I was little just one heavy spank on my back from my mom my senses will return. !lol
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Hahaha.... I can't even count the number of times I received mine from both mum and dad 🤣🤣🤣
Dad only need to make one certain look and I will behave, I hate it when his is angry with me. If worst come to be, he will tell me to go and cut him a cane to beat me with it then come a see tears on my face 😂 🤣🤣🤣
It's definitely hard fir children to deviate from the teachings they were brought up with that us why it's necessary to catch them young and not sparing the rod is part of it.
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Yes, Sis, we should definitely catch them young. When parents train children, they do not deviate from those teachings.
There was a time when there was controversies about this topic. Is it good to spare the rod? Can Some children learn without the rod?. I guess this controversies arose because of the extreme means of punishment some parents used as a means to correct their children. Things like hot iron or barbed wires.
Be that as it may(😅), kids are meant to be corrected when they go astray but not brutally. One other thing parents forget to do is tell the kids why they are being punished.
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Hmm,,, this is so inspiring and I enjoyed it. Sparing the rod automatically leads to spoiling the child which eventually would lead to the child becoming wayward when he grows up. Parents should endeavour to discipline a child at the right time and not when it is too late to straighten a crayfish.
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You've hit the nail at the right spot, the impact of discipline can never be overemphasized, although sometimes it seems harsh, but we're presently a product of such discipline which we are now proud of when we behaves or hear compliment about our act.
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The punishment meted out to children by their parents will deter the child from doing the same activity again. The child will most certainly be fearful.
Interesting story about the criminal that bit off his mother’s ear.
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