Hello beautiful people. Courtship is a period of time and an opportunity to learn about yourself and the person you want to spend the rest of your life with, you cannot get to know everything about your intending spouse but you can learn as much as you can and gather useful knowledge that will guide you as you make this life long decision.
Courtship helps to steer you towards either accepting or rejecting a person, either going forward with marriage or not. As a matter of fact, it will help you to see certain personality traits you will have to adjust to or accommodate as required or reject.
Courtship period is not the time to try out all the various sexual styles that exist or to satisfy your sexual fantasies. I am truly sorry for you if you have done all these and you are yet to marry because you are supposed to fully explore all of these in your marriage not in your courtship. The reason is you will have all the time in the world to do these.
During courtship, you learn that it is the time to be tactical, sensible and ask reasonable hard questions that will help you understand the person you are with to know who they are, what they stand for and how they take different issues of life.
Take the time to find out what they do and why they do those thing, find out about their jobs, they hobbies, their mindset and their lifestyle choices, investigate into their family history and their past on both their paternal and maternal side, this will save you a lot of headaches and surprises.
Check for genotype and other compatibility test should also be carried out, check for infections and do not take this with levity because it can literally affect your life span. Make sure you are good to pair off before you begin the journey.
Ask all the questions about things you will do in your marriage, parenting styles, and make sure you are bring realistic with your questions and responses, at this time it is okay to break it off so you do not marry your night mare in the end.
It is unfortunate that many people use this time to play around and have sex which is in my personal opinion a waste of their time and their life. In marriage you have the time to play and have fun because then, you know for sure that you are together for life.
Don't jump into marriage and skip the benefits of courtship, you will regret this decision in the end. Get as much as you can right during courtship so that you will not spend your marriage trying to figure things out.
If when fails to really know his partner during courtship, them the aim of courtship was defeated in that relationship. This an amazing article @oredebby, I am happy to have come across it...
Awww thats sweet to hear. Thanks for the comment.
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