Hello beautiful people. In our society today, the use of the word expectation has become synonymous with eating and drinking. It cannot be overemphasized or underestimated.
We are all on one journey of expectation of something, from someone, somehow.
Expectations can take two forms: It is either a goal or a means to an end, in this sense, they are good for it is mostly geared towards a positive and realistic goal. It can also appear in the form of an entitlement, commonly referred to as an entitlement mentality that can be and is dangerous if not properly contained, dealt with, and overcome. Entitlement mentality can lead to not just disappointment, it can also lead to heartbreak, and it can go as far as causing depression.
We would be focusing most of our attention on entitlement mentality because that is where there is much to deal with. Goals or aims can indeed become problematic when it is chased with extreme prejudice and ulterior motives, but that's mostly in unlikely cases. Goals require a give-and-take case and these expectations are justifiable because that's what makes life what it is supposed to be. On the other hand, an entitlement mentality doesn't care about the intricacies of life, it is only focused on its selfish reasons and desires, it is focused on how it can get and nothing else.
Expectations can hurt.
Digest that for a minute and note that high unrealistic expectations hurt the most. When we begin to expect what no one can provide from humans, from things, from life events from situations, we will most likely be disappointed in the end. If by chance, you get a good result, you will not be able to trace how it came to be, and you will fail to see or acknowledge the procedures that were put in place to make it happen. This is clearly because the results will not be commensurate with the efforts exerted.
We need to recognize the need to be realistic with our expectations, to avoid unnecessary pressure, disappointment, and heartbreaks. Although fantasy seems more interesting than reality and it shows us just what we want, it is always out of our reach because the types of machinery to bring those things and put them to work are unavailable.
Logical people would tell you that what matters most is that what you expect is verifiable, it is clear to all and it is achievable. It is relatable and everyone can see it as normal.
Now that you have understood the dynamics behind having realistic expectations, we are doing a great good as we condition ourselves to expect less, rather than put in the work to see that whoever is at the end of our response will deem it fit to do more than what we ask of then.
The world would become more tolerable if we could embrace this simple understanding and relate with people from every work of life like we would want them to do to us.
In this sense, we are creating a safer world, we are withdrawing unnecessary pressurizing situations and making sure they do not interfere with how we relate with people from all works of life.
