Writing at 9:35 pm, Should someone who had gone through pain and rejection tell the others they'll experience the same? Is that a prediction or a warning and does it imply they're wishing that path on the others? Or are they trying to prepare them for potential challenges ahead? Perhaps sharing their story can help others learn from their experiences and find a smoother path.
I remember going to my friend's house for a sleepover. we were in the living room when it was time for prayer. But instead of preaching the gospel, the father deviated into insult, not me directed at me but at my friend. They were saying hurtful things, reference past traumas and threatening her, saying, "what my father did to me is what I would do to you to discipline you" I was shocked and thought "why you're pouring your trauma or problems at your daughter and when they start developing mental issues you act like it's not your fault.
You'll see someone sharing their terrible experiences, expecting others to go through the same, saying, "that's part of growing up." But where they there when you were going through it, when you carry the weight of something inexplicable, were they there too? Are you wishing a similar path or genuinely trying to prepare you? Some people have this mindset because they went through hardship, others should too. Would an older sibling who's gone through terrible experiences want their younger siblings to suffer the same fate? No, they'd likely do everything to prevent it and make it right.
We all have different paths to follow, and life rarely turns out as planned. it's frustrating when others seems to get what we want without even trying. But when we see someone heading down a path we know is difficult, our instinct is to protect them, especially loved ones. Instead of criticizing, wouldn't it be better to have an empathetic conversation, explaining why we think their path might not be the best choice? Ultimately, the decision is theirs, some might not take the advice, but at least you as the parents or older sibling tried.
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I'm done writing at 10:20 pm and ready to post at 12:42am. I believe just because everyone gone through painful experiences doesn't mean others will have to. If you're hurting, you shouldn't wish that pain on others just because you've been through it. We all have different Journeys and destinies. Instead of passing on your struggles, you'd rather help others avoid them and set them on a better path. we should know that wisdom lies not in repeating the past, but in rewriting the future for those who comes after us.
