It is no doubt that Love is a beautiful thing in life. Despite this, insecurity has ben a major contender in many relationship today, hence there are ways this can be curtailed.
There is a specific purpose for Love or hate in life. Love finds expression between two imperfect personalities. Hence, we come to Lobe the imperfect perfectly. Whoever says he/she is perfect, doesn't need a companion at the first place because perfection it such context means the person in question is independent and requires no external aid whatsoever.
Insecurity between lovers had been an issue for generations till date. Unlike the olden days, the quantum rise in the level of insecurity these days is grossly alarming since the emergence of this digital dispensation. Everyone now have access to the internet and most relationship nowadays started online via most dating apps. Many homes today are in total disengagement due to insecurities. When a man becomes too handsome and social, in most cases, the wife feels more jealous and insecured and the same happens when a wife becomes too beautiful and jovial. To this effect i will be discussing the major ways to deal with insecurity in a relationship because this is usually born out of the feeling that the either party in the relationship might be cheating.
1. Build a healthy Self Esteem
studies have shown that people with relationship insecurities tend to have a poor self esteem. Be confident in your self and never feel less important or intimidated before your lover or anyone. No doubt It's good to be humble, but never make it look like a weakness. Build a healthy personality and independence and you'll definitely see your lover scared of losing you.
2. Know the reason you're insecure
A saying states that "when the purpose of a thing is not known, abuse is inevitable". It is important you know the root or source of your insecurities in order to know the appropriate way to deal with itand jeopardize your relationship. If it is due to sudden changes in your partner behaviour, call her notice and ask her questions in love. Never be violent or too emotional in order not to send a red signal of what you do not stand for. Be wise and be a listener. Never be in haste to cut tiles when you're yet to gather enough confirm evidence of your lover cheating on you.
3. Eradicate any past emotional baggages
Many people allows insecurities to find expressions in their relationship because of their past love experiences with their "Ex". That your Ex cheated on you is never a clue that your present partner is doing the same. This is why trust and genuine commitment is more important in building a relationship between two parties. Forgo the past, maintain the present and hope for a better future. So there's a need to let go of the negative relationship experiences of the past and stop using your past to judge your present relationship. No one is the same in life, we all have our different zones of character.
4. Work on yourself and trust your partner
A perfect Life is relatively built on trust. Despite the extent of your partner's weaknesses, learn to trust eachother. Never use their weakness against them. Communicate more often and meet when necessary. Desist from any suspicious act and be free. You'll definitely see your partner loving and trusting you than ever. Morealso, being emotionally and physically present in the relationship and being accountable to each other helps to build trust. It's also important to trust your own instincts. If your partner has never given you a reason to distrust them, then don’t.
5. Stop exaggerative thought
That your partner his having a phone call with the opposite sex doesn't mean they are cheating on you. Though when it becomes more often and she never give you attention when ever she's chatting with a guy, that might call for a reassessment. Love and respect her privacy, never allow the feel of insecurities ruin your relationship. Correct her with love and let her know how much she mean to you.
6. Give your partner space
A saying goes that "Absence make the heart grow fonder". Space make you both pursue your interest and maintain a good social life. Being independence by doing thing your way can help boost your self confidence and remind yourself that you still have a life outside of your romantic relationship. Maintain space at intervals but not for too long as being together and communication will help cement the union.
7. Hit the nail on the head
This is mostly to guys. Never promise what you cannot fulfil. Be real to let her know who you are and your background if necessary. Never project what you're not, because if she later finds that you're lying to her, she might pull off. So be realistic.
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