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There is an adage that says we all start and end with family and that's the truth. God sets the solitaries in families because belongingness is part of family. Diversity is a fact. Inclusion is an act. Belonging is the outcome. The importance of keeping a family together cannot be overemphasized.
For any ideal family, communication is very important. That sets the tone for whatever can be achieved and also for instilling your values. A family that cannot communicate can't stay together for long and when they managed to just stay together for whatever reason, the friction would be so obvious for all to see.
You have to be open to communication because how else do you want to express your feelings and make known what's important to you? If others don't know what you want, how else can they factor your needs and feelings into the equation?
Another thing you need in a family is openness. If you are not open, then you are not ready for a family. A family should see your vulnerability. A family should read you like an open book with all the honesty that comes with it. You have to lay it all bare if you ever want to allow your family to thrive. Secrets here and there ruin the sanctity of your home. And the only cure is for openness to thrive and this should be one of the core values we should instill in our homes. Transparency is vital.
There is this adage that say that a family that prays together stays together. There should be a prayers altar that must continually burn in your home. When you get to the point where you can't pray together, that's an indication that you both need to heal and forgive each other. When you pray together which shouldn't be out of obligation, it makes resolution happen quicker and faster too. You cannot rule out the God-factor in your home because it sets the tone for ALL things in your life.
Another key ingredient in a family should be forgiveness. The honest truth is, there is no perfect marriage. Most people you look up to would tell you the same. Don't allow social media and the fake reality of others to fool you. Every marriage is a work in progress. We all have our strength and we all have our weaknesses. We help each other with overcoming our weaknesses while we magnify the strength in each other.
What's a family without loyalty? It doesn't mean you blindly support when the person does wrong, but it simply means that you are committed to the person's growth, happiness and joy. You would be more vested in that person because you know when the table turns, that same person/people won't also leave you out. A lot of people place more value and show loyalty in the wrong places forgetting that we all start and end with family and your family is all you have got. We can choose our friends but we don't choose our family.
The bane of every marriage thrives on understanding. There would always be conflicts and loggerheads if you don't understand each other. Be attentive to listen and slow to speak. This way, it helps you to understand what the person is saying rather than being too quick to speak. A patient heart gains better understanding. Someone once said that you need to be careful of those who already know the answer before you even ask the question. Anyone who is always ready to speak without active listening lacks understanding. You need to speak in the language the other person understands because that's how to communicate and then understand.
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You are absolutely right bro. I am also agree with this. Loyalty is vital in a family. It doesn't mean blindly supporting someone's wrongdoing, but it means being committed to their growth, happiness, and joy. You invest in that person because you know that when the tables turn, that same person won't leave you behind. Many people mistakenly place more value and loyalty in the wrong places, forgetting that family is where we start and end. We can choose our friends, but we don't choose our family.
Exactly. It doesn't mean supporting the wrongs but supporting the growth and when the person erred, call them to other, show them tough love where necessary but still be committed to their growth. That's absolutely spot on.
Thanks a lot for this.
Listening is an active part of communication. You aren't communicating if your listeners can't seem to comprehend or perceive the message being passed across. I really love the enlightenment on what families should do to maintain a balance in their relationship.
If this write-up were to be a book, it would be: "The ideal family" by @olawalium. 😁
😂😂🤣🤣😂😂 I might adopt that title and brush this up to make it into a book. Thank you very much, brother. Deeply appreciate this.
Alright😅 I really can't wait for the book. We anticipate 🤲😁
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Hahahaha thank you so much. I am pumped. Have a blessed weekend ahead.
Keys to a better family, that’s how I see your write-up. I’ve learnt a lot from it and will surely put it into practice when I have a family of my own. Thanks for posting this, sir.
Yaaaay. I'm glad you enjoyed this and taking note of the lessons too. Means a lot. Thank you very much.
Family is all we need. Even though we don’t have friends, our family is always enough especially the nuclear family. This is why I feel sad when I see people who have lost every of their family members
It hurts a lot
Trust me, it hurts. Lost my dad and mum...just myself and my siblings and we try to stay as united as possible. Glad we all also have our families individually too...so we are growing and building. Thank you very much for this.
Family is the key. People might come and go but he who will always remain are your families. They will always be there for you and stick with you even in hard times. We must always learn to value and appreciate them. They are quality people and need to be celebrated. They need to be loved most especially families who love you
Family stays whether they like it or not, especially when friends come and go. There is this deep bond that comes with family when fostered the right way. We start and end with family.
Fmaily is the best. No matter where we go, family will always be there and they will always stay by our side. We should always value and Cheri's them no matter what may be. We should always stick to them and show them love beyond which they can imagine
We should always stick with them. Family sticks and should stick together. That's the beauty of family...the unison...the belongingness.
Family is the best thing we can ever ask of most especially families that love you and is always there for you. Never for once lose them. There are times in my life that I have been stranded and disappointed by a lot of people. But nevertheless in spite of that, my families always come through for me
There comes a time where friends would leave and one would feel lost and isolated. A true family rally round and show the needed support so as not to feel alone. Family is indeed important.
Perfectly true. There are times that the friends we actually depend on will actually live us, but irrespective of that, we must keep going and keep going no matter what. We need to stay faithful to our families because at the end of the day, they will surely end up to be those who will be there for us
Family was designed to be there for us...cushion the effect of the evil world and wicked people. That's why the foundation of the family should be strong so that the family won't be the enemy from within.
Family for me is everything, people come and go but family will always be there for us at all times both good and not so good, excellent recommendations you leave us in this great post friend, our first school is the family and we must always try to make everything more bearable to maintain that family union, I hope to create my own family soon xD, it's always a pleasure to read you my friend, un abrazo ♥
With the few interactions I have had with you and your wealth of experience as well, I have no doubt you will make an amazing family and you are a wonderful person too... thoughtful...considerate and cool.
Thank you very much for being here as always. Very true, family is important.
Thank you so much for that ♥, you have a great family that when you upload a post with photos of them, you can see the happiness and harmony that you have between you and that is what I want to form in my life and that of course God is that help us at all times, thank you for that, you are also great, gentle, noble and above all a wonderful being, un abrazote amigo mio ♥
Thank you very much. Gracias amigo. You have always been an amazing soul and an incredible human. I always appreciate you. Thank you for your genuine love and warm hand of friendship.
Thanks to you for your sincere friendship and for your good posts that you always bring us my friend, I will always wish you the best ♥
Thank you very much. Wish you the very best too and it's going to be an amazing weekend for you and yours in Jesus name, Amen.
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This write-up is just so perfect. Communication is a key virtue in the family. As a family, everyone is supposed to be open or free with each other and to share their opinions with one another.
That's it...the value of every family should be about the openness because from there everything else thrives. Thank you very much for your kind words. Deeply appreciated.
What can I say? This is not just detailed but you touched every of what a family and a relationship should entail. Communication coupled with active listening cannot be overemphasized. This is very good and thank you for this dosage. This one choke.
Hahahaha I am glad you enjoyed this as well and I am more excited to share more and more. I am encouraged. Communication with active listening...that's key. It's a fertile ground where everything else grows.
I completely agree when you say, be slow to speak and attentive when listening, this must be applied in every moment of life, I am of few words and this helps me to analyze and learn from others.
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That's a very good trait...speak less than you listen and communicate every time to allow relationship to thrive. Thank you very much my friend. Always appreciate you being here.