Re-orient, re-organize and re-prioritize based on that.
Last Sunday I left my native home, after planting the saplings in the newly renovated mini garden (about which I am yet to post), bringing all those saplings loaded in the car. But then the very next day there was a bad news - Mom fell down and severely hurt her left hand thumb area and going through immense pain. Instantly, I took help of my friends to get an X-ray done to see the impact and thank God, there was no fracture, but she was not able to even raise her hand - so badly injured it was. Given that I just left the previous day, she was not telling me to come again, but I could feel from her conversation that she wishes me to be there as Dad does not do anything, even taking his own medicines in time, unless kept in his medicine box and reminded. It's because of Mom the show is going on, and I know how it feels to have someone near us, when we are not doing well. So without any second thought, I packed my bags in a hurry and came back again on Monday evening and I could not express in words, lying her on bed, how relieved she felt, after seeing me. Also for the very first time I saw Dad (on the CCTV) being worried for her, even though he does nothing - when Mom had gone to do the X-ray, I could see him, roaming around the home, waiting for Mom, as she was late coming back. I keep watching them all the time, and Dad usually sleeps after lunch, but that day, he could not sleep probably because of the stress. He does not express anything (because of dementia), but it clearly indicated the unconditional love they have grown over a marriage of more than 55 years.
So this entire week has been full household work for me, giving rest to Mom and I had to re-prioritize everything for that, but I am happy to give them these special time, in their need of hours. Her hand was so badly hurt with severe blood clot that she could not even take medicines out from those strips, so you can imagine the pain she went through.
Waking up very early in the morning, making and serving tea to them, applying ice pack on her hand, serving medicines, food and even doing the special Puja on Thursday, apart from bringing stuffs from outside - I had to re-organize my daily plan to cater few extra hours for this. And it's not only me, but also my family - the kid is now given the responsibility to water the plants in my absence and mange everything along with my wife. This in when we feel the importance of the family, standing united, sharing part of our responsibilities.
And I was glad to see our neighbors stepping in to help to put these intricate jhotis all around the house - this made her feel extra special.
As she is doing better now, I may leave to my home in a day or two, but they will be my highest priority always - I am sure, at least it remains same for people like us from Gen X - THE BRIDGE GENERATION. This post is in response to the TRANSFORMATION THRSDAY prompt of this week
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It is unfortunate what happens to us when we age. Your story almost mirrors our parents, my mother in law fell last spring and broke her hip. At her age of 78 at that time surgery was very concerning and while she recovered and can walk again her hip still hurts getting into the car is a problem.
And my father in law has dementia and is very food focused. Sometimes he is completely gone and sometimes his mind clears and he can recognize us and speak about things from 40 years ago. But his short term memory is gone...
Wishing your mother a speedy recovery!
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Thank you so much, we are that bridge generation, who takes care of parents as well as children, at times I wonder, what would happen to us..
I've written this to you before, but I never tire of repeating it: you are a wonderful role model because your love for your family is beautiful, and all children should take care of their parents when they grow old, just as you do.
I wish the best for your parents and for your mother's hand.
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Thank you so much, I always feel, being able to serve them is the biggest gift for us, we may not survive this long.
What a gift you have to be able to pull up and voyage to help out. What a gift they have in a son who does that too!
Having lost my parents, both recently and long ago, what I wouldn’t trade for a few moments with them again helping out. I still feel their connection and get those moments in dreams sometimes but your family connection makes me happy.
Those are these real things in life and the other stuff will be there when you get back. Good to see you cherishing the gift of time with them and helping out so much.
Taking care of a loved one is not easy, but it shows how strong their family bond is. Moments like these remind us how important support and unity really are.
I wish ur mom a full recovery. she is tough and glad to hear u were there for her and ur dad, too. :)
the family is a strong unit indeed. its so nice to see it working so good..
When even one family member falls ill, the whole house feels the stress — and this is your mother we’re talking about. The way all of you came together in this difficult time to care for her is truly admirable. May Allah bless her with a speedy recovery.
Excellent friend, that love you feel for your parents and helping them in those moments when they need it most must be wonderful for you.
The important thing is to be well organized according to priorities, and in this case, his mother is undoubtedly one of them. Perhaps they don't say it, but they are very proud of the excellent son they raised, who now helps them in the most difficult times.
my grandmother which is a bit older tends to also fall a lot, when we become elder our body can't do everything the mind wants...gladly nothing too serious here
It's sad to know your mother went through that unfortunate accident. She must really be in pain. But she's blessed to have a responsible son like you. I can imagine your dad's worried face. I remembered my grandmother who also had dementia. My late grandfather died first. Despite having dementia, my grandmother keeps looking for my grandfather. She may forget everyone, but she can't forget her one precious love. I'd like to commend also the dynamic of your family in times like this. Everyone is willing to help and contribute to better the situation. Thanks for sharing this meaningful post!
I am really wishing your mom a speedy recovery. Be strong dear friend. Everything will definitely be fine
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