You always say the wisest, kindest and most empathetic things. I really appreciate it xx Yeah I feel I should be tougher, but I wasn't scared of having a blub to my mate. He's a lovely, calm guy who I really appreciated in that moment, that's for sure. I imagine you being similar.
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Thank you, that's very kind of you to say.
I think everyone wants to be tougher... but I think it's just way more honest to feel what we're feeling - they're real and valid and I'm not super sure that if we ignore them to appear tougher it does us much good. I don't know enough about it all to be honest.
Personally I love love love spending time with women over men because they're generally more honest with their emotions - some dudes are good, but mostly it's like pulling teeth to find out what a guy actually thinks about a situation.
Thank you! I do try to be both lovely and calm, but I have my own anxieties to manage so y'know, depends on the moment I think.
Yeah I have my calm and wise moments and my kermit moments.
I mean in Australia it's a notorious problem with blokes. Be a man and push that shit down. Then you have problems with suicide and DV because men can't handle their emotions because in turn they had fathers who weren't emotionally intelligent. And men are the role models for boys, as we know.
The fact you recognize it is huge enough.
Hahahaha!
The thing that really gets me is if you look at photos of mates from say, the 1940s and 1950s, they've got their arms around each other a lot, they're walking with their arm with an arm around their buddy, etc. They were physically and I have to assume emotionally much closer than today, and I feel bad blokes have lost that for no good reason...
The closest thing we might have today is team sport, but I really hope we can stop suppressing it in boys and men.
That is really sad. If you go to Africa or some other places you see young men holding hands or arm in arm, it's so lovely. Here it's rare to even get a hug hello or goodbye with boys. Affection is seen as weakness.