That's the point exactly, writing should be for your own personal gains at self improvement more than just for a vote or for the sake of a 365 badge. I couldn't be bothered with that to be honest. I get badges from HiveBuzz all the time as long as I keep writing for the sake of my own blog more than any other factor.
Absolute crazytalk indeed, there isn't even any argument in terms of priorities of what your responsibilities are so I get it.
I created a community - for myself. I don't promote it, I don't put little tags on people's comments to do so as it's purely there for me. If someone wants to post in it, then cool, they can. I have got rules but it's because I've seen what happens in communities without rules. They turn into a swirling mass of rubbish that I mostly don't understand to begin with - my rules are really there so that I can mute posts if I need to in order to keep my community of a quality that I like. It's more quality control than anything else. Even with rules, there was a post that came in that actually had very little to do with the description of the community, but there was effort in it so I commented and voted it.
Drama, yes exactly. I fucking hate drama. If I even vaguely sense drama in a comment on a post I put into someone else's community, then I draw a line and will not post there again. Simple. I'm too old for school yard BS, in real life or in Hive.
Nice to meet you by the way.
Sorry to take up your time by cointinuing to respond, but you make some darn good points in your comment. Nuance can be so useful.
It hadn't dawned on me what the founder of that communiy might have gone through to need to get to the point of adding that many rules in the first place. After five years of posting in his community, here he came suddenly with bile attached, and I was as sweet as can be which I'm sure irritated him. He was spoiling for a fight, but I knew it and just bent with the wind denying him what he wanted.
A girl had just posted in his community about a funeral she'd attended and he lit into her in the comments. Due to the publics response, he realized that he''d gone too far with her (who attacks someone after posting about a relative who just died?) and tried to walk it back, but the damage was done. And the next person he ran upon was me.
As soon as I saw that from him, I kindly bowed out from his community and never looked back. I've watched him for years fight with so many people in comments, but never expected it to come to me. But it did.
Sometimes I forget that not everyone is so good intentioned as I am. Here when people talk about me they say "he's honest and has a good heart" as if that's something old-fashioned or unusual nowadays. Like they're looking at a curio or ehxibit in a museum, as if they're saying "So that's what people used to be like?" :) So there's that. Thanks for adding your perspective (it was very helpful) and nice to meet you as well.
Hi again, sorry for the late reply and no, please don't apologize for "taking up my time", you aren't, this conversation is interesting and I'm always happy to have a genuine conversation.
I appreciate that you can see why there was a need to implemented rules. There are a lot of people who need rules or they just fill spaces with BS. I haven't been here even a fraction of how long you have, but I've partially read some posts that don't even begin to make sense, and it's not due to a language barrier or translation. Posts like that I can't even finish because they are illogical. I personally wouldn't want those in a community I manage.
Community owners need to be responsible with how they deal with situations like that. I think that what you described was very insensitive and should have been handled with a level of compassion which sounds like it was missing in that instance. We also know that a lot of people talk on Discord behind the scenes and good and bad impressions will move through circles there.
That last paragraph of yours made me laugh, I'm sorry, not meaning it in a nasty way, but it was funny how you described that us old fashioned folk are like antiquities 🤣 the worst part is that it's true. A lot of what used to be considered common decency has been lost over the last two decades.