Hi all, I think all of us has been in this boat before, but as the years went by, and been through 2 marriages and a couple of failed relationships, I feel confidant to share the following signs of a CHEATING PARTNER with you.
I AM UNHAPPY - Why should I stay unhappy.
This is normal for some romance to dissipate the longer you are in a relationship. Intimacy and sex and spontaneity is likely to diminish in both quantity and quality. Not surprisingly, all three are frequently-cited reasons why some people use the excuse of they are unhappy with their partner. This is used as a defense mechanism. The common rationale for the "unhappy" excuse is to dampen any underlying sense of responsibility or guilt. This self-serving emotional manipulation increases the likelihood that one will engage in an inappropriate relationship.I AM JUST BORED
Similar to the feeling of romance, it is natural for the novelty to wane during a relationship.
Citing boredom as an excuse is simply a manifestation of (out with the old , in with the new)YOU ARE JUST NOT THE PERSON I MET
This is one of the lamest excuses to cheat, normally it is when your partners physical appearances changes, Weight gain, lack of grooming and a perceived lack of self - care are often motivating factors for one to cheat.WE ARE ALWAYS FIGHTING
Example: Financial stress, new parents to a difficult baby, stress at work and you take it out on your partner, etc etc
Fighting of any sort is emotionally draining, and to often men/woman use this as an excuse to cheat.
5 I AM JUST DESIGNED TO CHEAT
Now to me that is just a load of hog wash. If you are so called "designed to cheat", don't enter into a relationship at all. Find yourself an open minded partner who is just in it for the sex , and hop from partner to partner.
Most of us will agree that some individuals are better suited for long-term relationships than others. Nonetheless, many -a-cheater have faulted their biological makeup as a reason to cheat. IT IS NOT
- I DONT KNOW WHY I CHEAT
The psychology of infidelity is a foreign topic for most of us. Suffice to say that the myriad conscious and subconscious factors are likely at play when someone decides to cheat on their partner.
Well folks, I hope I helped someone who suspects their partner is cheating.
Have a great day.
@annieb Great post !
Thank you, as I said have been there done that.