Are you looking for a more complete "self" ?
Are you obsessed with life doing everything people do?
Countless , that's the most comprehensive philosophy to evaluate your self. We're not perfect enough but it's the most wonderful thing that people own ( because we live , not robot )
So: "Treat yourself like how you treat people you love"
When you realize that you are perfect enough, it is also when you see this world brighter, the burden is relieved. And feel like I love this life, not a warrior, to fight it. You deserve such a life.