Dissatisfaction with sexual functionality is without a doubt the most discussed reason for consultation in my office. At the same time, these couples assure me that they have an almost exemplary relationship! They have fun together, they discuss a lot of things, they have a nice complicity, they offer gestures of affection on a daily basis, but their bed only serves to sleep. In short, they are the best friends in the world and not lovers. So they come to see me to find this sexual desire, simply because in their memories, this moment of intimacy did them the greatest good! Before you dive into a sexological process to find these magical moments, you must first and foremost be aware of what sex can bring you on a daily basis. Here is my top 5.
To live a deep connection
More and more scientific research is showing that sexuality is not a physical need. The frustration experienced during prolonged abstinence is usually the result of unmet psycho-emotional need. This is why you have the impression that masturbation cannot completely fill the desire that lives in you. She can soothe her, but she will not replace that deep connection you have with your partner during sex.
To develop sexual complicity
Relational complicity is not always enough to consolidate the love you have for each other. Moments of sexual intimacy help you stay on top of your reciprocal excitement. Explore the caresses that stimulate you, the positions that turn you on and why not the erotic toys that titillate you! It is a fact, to develop a sexual complicity it is necessary to make a mark on this lassitude and to explore together the sexuality which will be in your image!
To do good
Sex is good, that's all. When you have worked on your blockages and limiting thoughts related to sexuality, it becomes fulfilling and helps you feel better. There is obviously a hormonal part where oxytocin (attachment hormone) is secreted after sexual intercourse and endorphin increases the feeling of well-being. The moments of sexual intimacy with our partner lightens the heart and radiates every day.
To move away from the "roommate" way
As time goes by, a couple who moves away from their sex life gets closer to being a roommate. Often, the more passion was intense in the beginning, the more passivity prevails over the years. Why? Because the partners have taken for granted that magic works alone. However, it is not so and a couple inevitably needs effort to perpetuate the sexual flame. If you wait for the desire to come from the sky by magic, it is possible that you wait a long time.
To open up to one another
Sex is a mode of communication. When we share a sexuality with our partner, we give him the key to privileged access to our intimacy. If it is difficult to open in this way, it is possibly because something is wrong with the relationship. The higher the level of happiness in the couple, the more lovers will want to get closer. And the closer they get, the higher their level of happiness will be. Is not it wonderful as a vicious circle?