You might say that men only care about boobs and butt, but that is not true. Men have been constantly portrayed by the media and society as some wild savages that only use women for sexual pleasure and are incapable of showing feelings and affection towards a woman, but that is a very distorted reality, that is not at all how we men are.
I will let you inside the mind of a man, and tell you my opinions about what we find attractive in women, in a relationship, lasting for longterm. Now it is true that some men prefer short term sexual pleasure, over long term healthy relationship, but that is certainly not how men work and definitely not after 35 years of age. I cannot speak for all men, obviously, but I have talked to many friends and many of us have a similar view about women.
So here is my list of traits that I find attractive in women:
1) Smile
I find a smiling woman very attractive. It gives a very positive aura to her, it suggests that she is happy, joyful and playful. A woman that smiles frequently is definitely a good sign that she enjoys what she is doing and that she will have a positive effect on her partner. A smiling woman is definitely a pick for the longterm, as a wife. A man feels very comfortable and satisfied if he knows that a woman enjoys his presence, it signals that she is happy besides him and it's a good basis for a healthy longterm relationship.
2) Kindness
I find kindness a very important attribute too. Nobody likes rude girls that are constantly yelling at their partners. Contrary to popular opinions, men are not savages, we don't like if a girl yells at us or is behaving very rudely.
The fact that we have been together for long time doesn't give women the right to just yell at us as they please, the sort of like: go take out the trash! go cut the grass! go to buy some groceries! types of orders that women tell us constantly, believe me, we don't like it. We are not your dog, but your partner. It's not that we are are lazy, we might be, but that still doesn't give our wives the right to just yell at us for anything.
We enjoy if our partner is kind, understanding, and doesn't resort to violence (like the wife throwing things at us). We can be reasoned with, not all of us are alcoholic savages, most of us can be reasoned with, we can take criticism, and we would like to resolve the relationship issues in a peaceful way. So a kind partner is a great gift that a man can get, and the more kind the girl is, the more kind the man will be. It's the positive aura of kindness that reinforces itself.
3) Loyalty
Men have honor, at least real men do. We are like wolves, that work in a pack, and have our code of conduct and our dignity. We like to protect our honor and dignity, we have if somebody takes our values for nothing.
We men are also sometimes very sexually charged, so it takes a great deal of discipline and self-control to remain loyal to our partner. It is very hard to not cheat our partner, given that we evolved biologically to have 1 wife but many mistresses. Our partner expects us to stay loyal to her, and we try, it takes a great effort and focus to reject a mistress if opportunity would give us one.
Therefore we expect the same from our partner as well. And it is one of the most dishonorable things for a woman to do is to cheat us, while we are being loyal and putting great efforts to not cheat her, but then she cheats us.
It is an unforgivable sin, and it hurts our dignity, if we would forgive her, that would hurt our dignity even more.
So you have to understand if we put great deals of effort into staying loyal, but then you cheat us, that is one of the worst things you can do to a man.
So a loyal female partner, is very important for us, otherwise we can't be loyal either.
4) Originality
We like original girls, that are not acting themselves. Sometimes we might not have similar interest or we might hate the things that you are doing, but that doesn't mean that you should put up an act.
We don't like women that are lying just to make things more comfortable for us. We like women that are original, and are only showing their own personalities. If you lie to us, we will find out eventually, we are not as dumb as we look, and then it will just hurt the relationship.
So it's very important for a woman to be original, showing their true personality, at first date, as throughout the rest of the relationship.
5) Playfulness
We like if girls are playful, and I don't just mean sexually, but even throughout the day. We like if they are joking with us, they are touching us, nudging us, cuddling us, hug us, and play with us gently. We love gentle women that are playful and enjoy our presence.
Some girls might be shy and don't show that much affection, but believe me, if you want to impress your partner, he will definitely like if you are playful with him.
See we are not savages, we love to play with our partner, and not just sexually speaking, but in other ways. We also like if you can play table games, or card games, or even video games with us. Show us that you are our partner and that we can do many things together.
It is most important for a partner to show that it is a partner and not just a tool, by playing with us, you are showing your man that you are the real deal. It might earn you a wedding ring.
These are my opinions what I find attractive in women, and again, I don't speak for all men, but I think the majority of us share the same views. We are definitely not beastly savages, we have our kind hearts too, and we love if our woman can summon that good side in us. The best relationships are those where both partners know each other and vibrate on the same level, those will result in live-long marriages.
And remember, physical appearance is overrated. Most hot women don't share these 5 traits, so if you want a quality man, then try to practice these things and the man will open himself to you and be the best partner you've ever had.
I completely agree with you but Bbs and a add some more fun to it. @freddy008
It's like the salt on the food, if the food tastes bad, doesn't matter how much salt you add to it, it wont make it better.
Good comment!
Thanks! I try to show my opinions.
Well it depends on how long he had sex, if it was longer than two weeks he will still be picky, longer than 1 month he won't care what she looks like.
Well I dont think sex is the only pillar that a relationship rests on, there are much more important things.
If all you want is just sex, then you go to a hooker, but if you want more than that then you find a good partner.
I believe these traits are true. The older I get, the lower I place physical attractiveness in the things I look for in a girl. Looks are nice, but they fade. A girl who is fun to be around, loyal, and a great friend trumps looks any day.
Yes, its more likely that mature men look for mature women. But I also think that all men are looking for real mature women it only takes more trials and errors to find it.
I wonder why you stopped posting...