Its no secret that, more than anything else, the people around us will determine how happy, healthy and successful we feel. How much we enjoy life is to a very large degree, a direct result of the way we are enjoying the people in our lives.
The people who feel attracted to us, do so because of the way we treat and interact with them. The way we behave is mostly automatic, a lifetime of habits and conditioning tends to make us fairly predictable. Even when we are unpredictable, it is usually in predictable ways, like certain kinds of humour tend to repeat the theme if not the exact jokes.
So what do all these wonderful people want from us?
They want the same thing we want, they want to be appreciated and accepted for who they are, they want to feel safe and supported. They want to have experiences that allow them to build trust.
This allows them to relax, it allows them to step down their defences, to be creative and playful again.
So their body can produce dopamine, serotonin, endorphins, all the good stuff.
It also allows them to come out of fear state, to release anti-inflammatories and let their immunes systems operate at full capacity again. To go into growth and repair mode, basically to let the body shift resources to where they are needed, and remove toxins from where they are not.
So what's with all the biology talk?
We know we can't fight nature, yet we spend most of our energy doing exactly that.
Health lies in the exact opposite direction of what most of us are doing as individuals and even more so collectively.
Its ok, getting up-set about the way things have been, is also fighting nature.
There is entirely more than adequate fighting going on, we don't need to add to resistance and struggle.
The very definition of grace, would be the effective application of minimal force.
There is a great difference between influencing with sensitivity and skill as opposed to controlling with might and power.
The first step in healing relationships is to stop fighting and simply take it all in.
It all begins with allowing sensitivity..sound scary?
It is..
So right my dear! But what is when someone is playing with this...? I know somebody who was waiting til a full heart opener was there and then he nearly killed this feelings/ person...the person get a weird Attacke of this faker...it’s rare but possible...
without experiencing the situation, I can never know.
fear is a terrible thing, especially when it is deeply hidden within the person, so they do not even know it is still there.
Beneath all addiction and cruel behaviour there is fear or worse, a disconnection from any feeling.
The great news is that, so long as there is life, the chance for some degree of healing exists.
Thank you for dropping in and reading :)
Yeah, that’s true! But what is if people are looking for this fear and playing with it (telling one thing-doing something else...) I saw that this could destroy not heal...it’s a wrong way I think but there are humans who do this energy game of bad stuff...what is your experience with People who think they are healer and who Play with other people’s mind, Heart and feelings?
Much of human activity is designed to evoke emotional response in others. Much of it is harmless, and much of it is not.
These games are as old as language itself, we need to be aware, but the best defence is not to seek attention and validation from others.
When we give ourselves acceptance and put attention into our own senses, into our own body, release non useful tension, then ironically we become so nice to be around.
We also stop attracting energy vampires, for they can feel that we are no longer weak and needy. We also are more sensitive to who they are when we are more sensitive to who we are.
There are zero short cuts.
there is only honesty, courage and kindness (to self and to others)
kindness is not always softness
No one can do this work for us
Oh wow you know what I mean!
Yes, the person called it energy Vampire also!!!!!
I said the same like you!
Great to read that there are more people thinking like me!
It’s an really old old energy game!
The most have to wake up and let go this !
Yes!!!
Honestly
Fairness
Freedom
Loyalty
Love!!!
All begins with the truth! Even if it the personal truth!!! People have to learn to be really honest! My words!
If not it hurts themselves and others!
Hugs to ya my dear!
Great to read you this day :-)
Steem AUM
;-)
Hugs are always good :)
Happy for you
Wow this is a wonderful post. People around really determine how happy we are. If you surround yourself with happy people you will be happy. Thanks for sharing another wonderful post I really enjoyed it
There are few people who do exactly opposite of it. And we start feeling bad and our body also starts giving bad response. Its very difficult to overcome from this situation. They try to play with us and with our emotions. Greed of human is the one of the biggest enemy in my opinion.