While cuddling, drinking coffee, or simply during breakfast with your one and only, have you ever looked in their eyes, looked above, and say "Oh God, he's the one" or "Oh God, yes, it's her".
Ever experienced that?
Is there ever a chance that you speak with yourself realizing how blessed you are to have this person and keep congratulating yourself for a job well done of finding him or her amidst this cruel world?
This, indeed, is one of the best feelings and one of the best accomplishments in life. In this world full of unrequited love, it is truly a blessing to find that one person you see yourself being with for the rest of your life.
In this post, I will share with you some points to ponder that can help you tell if he or she is the ONE.
1. You Can Be Vulnerable
With this person, being vulnerable is no big deal and you find no issue with showing the weakest version of yourself because you know for a fact that no matter what state you are currently at that your partner may see, you still feel safe and secured whenever he or she is around.
Despite your insecurities and anxieties, you feel no worries showing it because you know everything is going to be okay because this person accepts you for who you are and what you currently feel.
2. You Have The Same Values and Goals
If not the same, your goals and values are at least close to each other.
Adapting is always easy because what you personally believe in is aligned to what this person believes in and it is never hard to adapt because you have the same mindset that leads to your relationship's growth.
Having the same goals and values makes it easier for the both of you to handle your personal achievements while working on your achievements as a team.
3. You Got A Personal Cheer Leader
Nothing beats having a partner who not only gives you emotional value but also gives you moral boost. This person is the one who always believes in you, cheers for you, motivates you, and who is always there to support you.
Whenever you feel difficulties at work or with personal matters or when you feel hardships in life, this person is your number one fan who keeps on encouraging you and keeps believing you can make it.
4. It's Discussion Not Argument
This person believes that your relationship is not perfect and there will really come a time that you need to get through rocky roads not in a form arguments but discussions.
He or she believes that it is about understanding what went wrong and how you both can fix it as a team while sitting together at one side of the table rather than being on both ends fighting about who will win and who will lose.
This person knows the value of compromising and putting all the problems on the table and fix those one by one.
5. With This Person, You're Home
Being with this person, you don't feel the need to be beautiful or handsome all the time. You can be the ugliest you. You feel comfortable being yourself and you just feel relaxed and safe like there is no problems in this world.
This is because you feel you are home and there is no need for you to be somebody else or to be someone you are not to be liked and appreciated.
With this person, everything is just natural because you know for a fact that you are being loved and accepted for who you are.
6. Your Presence Is In Their Future
This person talks about the future with you. He sees the life ahead including you but not basically just talk about it but you clearly see he works hard for it and for the life he wants to share with you.
This person has a dream life of waking up to each morning with you being his and him being yours.
You will see that this person is not "all talk" but he is someone who takes each day as a stepping stone to achieve the life he wants with you by being a man of action.
7. Incomparable Happiness
You know what happiness is but the happiness this person gives you is incomparable. Whenever you are with him or her, you know to yourself that you smile and laugh differently and no one can make you do that except for this person.
The sound of his voice or the brightness of her eyes brings a certain feeling that is beyond compare.
All the right moves and all the right words make sense to you and the happiness it brings you cannot be explained and you only have this certain feeling when this person is around.
8. That Gut Feeling
Trust what you feel is what they say. One of the best gifts that has ever given to us by the universe is this power inside us allowing us to tell whether something is wrong or right.
The same when we feel that the person we are with is the right one for us. With the help of our experience dealing with different kinds of people and the help of our self-love that leads us to knowing what we really want and what kind of person we like to be with for the rest of our lives, trusting our gut when it comes to telling if our partner is the one for us is no longer a problem.
Gut feelings may not be enough for you to tell you found the one but this should not be ignored as this is the other side of you that sees things your eyes cannot.
9. You Share The Same Humor
When you are with the right person, being silly is not a thing. You can laugh loudly and you can be the craziest person you can be.
With this person, it is never hard to throw jokes or funny lines for it is easily understood and the same energy is being thrown back.
You got the same wavelength and same mood that it is never hard for you to make each other feel good because everything, may it be senseless, makes sense.
10. All Should Work In A Two-way Street
Everything mentioned above are just some of the ways to tell if you already met and found the one.
… but the most important thing of all is that whether you got checked everything or just one, each of those factors should go both ways.
It is not enough that you have those pointers alone for yourself. If each does not go both ways, then there is no point at all. At the end of the day, everything should go on both sides of the street.
Relationship is a give and take partnership. It is not something you can grow and improve alone. If all of these "Points to Ponder" work both ways as you think of your "One and Only Love" as you read this article, then you can finally say...
... "Oh, this person is, indeed, the one!"