Here's a story:
One fall, a group of swans came to an island in swan lake. They fly from the far north to the south for the winter.
The old fisherman and his wife lived on the island. They were very happy to see the visitors from outside. When winter came, the swans did not fly further south. When the lake froze and they could not get food, the old couple left their huts open to keep them warm and fed until the lake thawed the next spring.
Day after day, year after year, winter after winter, the old couple gave their love in this way. At last one year, when they were old, they left the island and the swans disappeared.
Instead of flying south, they starved to death during the lake's freeze the following year.
In the story, the fisherman and his wife take good care of the swans like they love their children. They are in charge of eating and controlling the swans. And they devote their love "day after day, year after year".
However, the tragic ending of the swan also tells us that it is this excessive love of the fisherman and his wife that makes the swan indulge in an idle and comfortable life, develop inertia, lose the instinct of life and the basis of survival, unable to adapt to the environment, and finally be swallowed up by the changed environment!
In real life, how many parents spend their whole lives creating a cozy nest of love for their children?
Child hour, hold in the hand to be afraid to fall off, contain in the mouth to be afraid to melt, the child wants a star to dare not give the moon, do not let the child do a little housework, eat a little bitter, suffer a little tired, let the child lead "clothes to stretch out a hand, meal to open a mouth" master life.
The child is big, should be busy looking for a good profession that does not bask in rain to do not drench to them on dry or wet day again, still want to want to leave a rich legacy to them, even if oneself eat to suffer to the utmost for this also be willing to...
This is the typical "fisherman couple" type of parents and their selfless love!
However, considering the swan's ending, can we still respect this love? Actually, this kind of "meticulous" love, this kind builds comfortable and comfortable love blindly, just be the "trap" of the life.
Those who fall into this trap have nothing but dependence and inertia. Once there is a "frozen lake" in their lives, they will never end up any better than swans.
People need love, of course, but when this love mutates into a gift of happiness, a care that takes care of everything, it is no longer love, but a gentle knife that can kill people!