Everyone has been proud in the past and is currently still proud; only a few are no longer proud, either because of a divine intervention or because of the terrible lessons they've learned and the consequences that come with it.
As someone who has been in privileged and underprivileged situations, abused verbally and emotionally, and seen life in very harsh ways. I can tell you that people with privileges can be unknowingly proud without even realizing they are.
The lady I currently work with is one of such people. She has a way of looking down on others, especially if she feels she's not going to make money from talking to them. She tries to cover this up with the excuse that she's fighting a divorce case and she needs to make money.
She steps on people's toes, burns bridges, and is never even satisfied. Right from the beginning I taught her a lot of things she knows and gave her hacks on content creation, tips, and many others. I even taught her how to talk to potential clients or how to accept or reject official proposals.
She was mostly lonely and confused at one point, but a lot of the information and things I taught her came in very handy. These days she has become so proud, and now that she thinks she has gotten to the top, she kicks on smaller people, disrespects my views, and becomes verbally condescending.
I laugh most times because I've been there. I used to be like her in the past—same attitude and behavior, bit the finger that fed me, and burned numerous bridges—but I was young, inexperienced, and never learned anything before then.
Now I'm wiser; I've been through life, through hell and back, and human tendencies and behaviors do not move me anymore. I've learned a lot from being sick, and I've learned a lot from being a loser. Most importantly, I learned a lot from the calamitous life I led in 2021 that currently still affects me today, and now I'm more humble.
I learned a lot from my condition and situation. I could have literally been a better man in my 20s, and this would have saved me so much of the pain and losses I've experienced, but I've learned the hard way.
Apart from my experience, my faith, change, and conviction have made me a humbler person. Even though prideful tendencies try to enter me sometimes, I try to make humble affirmations to remind myself that I'm not what I think I am (literally).
I literally have the seed phrase of this woman with me; I can make away with all her crypto money if I want, but she still thinks she can buy trust and transparency in the job market for cheap.
Ohh
As I continue my recovery journey, I have continued to reflect on my life, and honestly there are not a lot of humble people in life; most times these people are our supposed friends, colleagues, and even family members, and proud people cannot be trusted with anything. Oh, I realize this is my longest post in close to 2 months. It's the first time I'm thinking so deeply, and thank you for reading through this far.
arrogance rather than proud i would say in the case of your "boss", but she will bite the dust as soon as you leave her...
take care
Perhaps she'll do better when I leave, I can't tell, but I hope she learn humility and show more humility and less of the arrogance
it could be interesting to check her account from time to time to see how shes doing after
People tends to change at some points in their lives due to different reasons. But in all, experience will always teach us the hard lessons. In the past , your own similar experience to this person you mentioned here taught you humility and now you see things differently and for good. I really hope this same person rethinks and embraces humility otherwise pride and looking down on people is a step to downfall
I'm going to leave the job soon enough, and perhaps she will have to cope with dealing with people who aren't trustworthy. I hope she learns soon enough
You're absolutely right, we've all experienced pride in our lives, and at times we've given it priority. Unfortunately, it's true that pride can blind us and destroy relationships. At 40, I completely put pride aside.
Glad you are getting those thought processes back together a little more, tough to do when you are ill! Pride and overconfidence are not a good thing, but it sounds like she has some other mental disorder on top of everything. You can be reckless when you're young and even cocky, but with age you tend to learn that you don't know everything. Once you're no longer running here social media she will quickly fall back down and be earning much less money. At that point expect a few phone calls begging for your return...
Take care of yourself, and I'm glad you're getting stronger!
Being proud can be very damaging if not worked on immediately. We all have taht attitude in us, but calling ourselves to order whenever those thoughts come in takes a very high level of maturity and responsibility on our part.
We know whatever we do, we will have to deal with what comes out of it. I hope she gets to understand. There are some things we experience ourselves and others we learn from people around us.
yeah I missed this part... tells me a lot of recovery setting in ... kudos bro....
..as for the lady just ignore her and try doing what matters most to you, filter her nonchalant attitude and move on
Just reading the flow of the writing showed that you've entered a writing state :)
I think it's human nature to establish hierarchies as a way to give ourselves more power/influence than we can normally have. But these hierarchies more often than not are dynamic, not set in stone, the tables can easily turn. She'd probably learn the hard way at some point that she really can't do much a by herself and needs to lower her ego to work together with people regardless of flimsy status. Being humble can be a superpower.
Some people are just like that. It doesn't hurt to put out what you think, and I think she will only realize things when people leave. You should always be respectful to people no matter how big they are. After all, you never know what will happen.
a good read buddy