Most people live behind a veil that restricts their true potential. They never live up to their true potential because they have a false belief that they cannot achieve greatness. In fact, the greatest and most enduring reasons why many people live normal lives is because they believe they are not meant for extraordinary lives.
The Science Behind Self-Confidence
It is not the lack of intelligence, opportunities, or resources that make people live mediocre lives. Rather, it is the lack of belief in themselves. To put it in another way, people have very little confidence in themselves. Just think about it. Bill Gates rose to be a prominent force in today’s computing world not because he came from a wealthy family, or he had a unique opportunity not open to other people. Rather, he had a belief that he could achieve whatever he set out to do.
The belief in one’s abilities is what separates the great from the not so great.
What Is Self-Confidence Anyway?
Luckily self-confidence is a skill, not a talent you have to be born with. It is something you can learn, and with practice, you will have the all the self-confidence you need to take on the world and be all that you can.
Like any other skill, self-confidence needs a lot of practice. The more you practice it, the better you get at it. For instance, if you want to get better at speaking in front of large crowds, you need to adopt a belief that you can make a speech in front of hundreds or thousands of people.
You need to start believing in your ability to speak in public. When you start believing in yourself, something happens in your brain. Your mind starts pulling all the resources you need to master public speaking.
It’s that easy. What you convince your conscious and subconscious you can do, the two will draw in all the resources you will ever need to achieve your goal. So if you want to develop a deeper and stronger self-confidence, you have to adopt an attitude of a confident person.
Seek out the behaviors of individuals with self-confidence. In fact, find a mentor and try to emulate them. Copy them correctly, and you will find your self-esteem growing day by day. You don’t need to do anything else, just adopt the habits of confident people, and you will become confident.
The brain learns by emulating. It takes a set of facts and applies it to a situation. If you give your brain a set of points that you are confident, the brain will try and make that a reality. That’s the science of self-confidence. The more you practice, the better you get at it. It’s like riding a bike, practice long enough, and you’ll never forget how to ride a bike your entire life.
Quick tips to boost your self confidence
Take care of your personal hygiene.
This will make people want to be around you, Also it will make you feel better about yourself.Focus on your “self talk”
We all have a little voice in our heads that talk to us throughout the day, Focus on what it is saying! Is it very negative? Try to think more positive about things.Know what you stand for in life, and Live it.
Don’t let people tell you how to live, Or what to get out of life, It’s yours. Learn about yourself and know what you want, So you can follow your own values.Improve posture.
Bad posture isn’t only bad for your back, but It can cause problems later, Stand tall. And look at the things around you, you won’t feel very good about yourself if you just stare at the ground all the time.Set small goals and achieve them,
This will make you feel better about yourself overall and it will hopefully motivate you to work towards your larger goals in life.Focus on solutions, not problems.
Focusing on the problems in your life, Will cause more stress and make you miserable, Focus on the solutions to your problems and ways you can fix issues in your life. This will enable you to get what you want easier and boost your overall confidence.Exercise
Not only will breaking a sweat make you feel good because of the endorphins in your brain! But seeing your body change and feel better will boost your confidence.
Confidence is power! If you want to be able to get everything out of life, It’s important to be concerned on what your confidence level is at.
like post ,waiting for more
nice article n i keep wacthing this
More keep coming up hehe! I think I have a very big addiction to this site!
nice post @kaylinart
vote done
Nice post! It's refreshing to see the topic of empowerment here on Steemit. I have grown into a confident person through my 20s (I just turned 33), from being a shy teen. I always loved myself, but I was too afraid of criticism when I was younger. I always wanted positive feedback. Negative feedback would crush me. I was paralyzed from really putting myself out there. My biggest tip for self confidence is don't be afraid to be disliked or not well-received. I gain more self-confidence and self-reliance when I decided to act within my personal integrity and speak from the heart. That way, it matters less what the outcome is, and I can love myself for being myself. Thanks for the food for thought!
I love your comment! It's so true, People out there will hate you no matter what, And some people will like you no matter what, You just need to find those people.
Yes! We are worth having good friends :-)
Hehehe Definitely
After I saw and thought....
👍great post, also I like ur tips... Keep up ur work...
Ohh So creepy! I love this!!
I'm pretty flippin' confident! :D I'll give myself a 8.5; we can always improve!
I like your quick tips and follow them all myself.
Your turn Lin, what's your confidence level? :)
Thats awesome :) 8.5 Is good! I'd probably say I'm a 7 or an 8, So I'm up there. But not quite high enough lol.
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:-)
Love your post! It reminded me of something I learned from Brian Tracy:
I've heard this quote before and I love it hehe ;)
Kaylin, great post. I enjoyed the art you have shared in the past, but it's good to see you adding a different type of value to the site as well.
There is a lot of truth to the idea that confidence is learned. When I was six years old, my mother signed me up for piano lessons; I was naturally shy, yet part of the course requirement was having to perform on stage. For years, I threw up before every performance, but to make it through, there was no way to go but forward. That experience allowed me to build the confidence I otherwise wouldn't have had.
I'm now able to present important project findings to audiences of senior leadership at work, post my original writing to be read by hundreds of thousands on Wattpad, and speak publicly or lead tours as needed, all without letting my (still natural) shyness win out.
It was a long road, and it started early, but I got here under my own power — thanks to being put outside of my comfort zone.
WOw that is amazing!! Being outside your comfort zone makes all the difference. I had to do ballet on Stage so I know how scary that can be!
Great post @kaylinart!
Self-confidence is a skill that can be learned, and your quick tips are a great way to get started on self-confidence.
Thanks for sharing this.
Thank you! It definetly is, I feel like many people feel like they can never learn it, Instead they are doomed. Which is not the case at all.
It's all about limiting beliefs @kaylinart. Henry Ford said it best, "Whether you think you can, or you think you can't--you're right."
Eek! I love this article :) It's so true
It really is true! Thanks again for sharing this. Keep the posts coming.
Set small goals and achieve them.
During the last 30 minutes of a work day, try to work on a small task that you can achieve before you go home.
Thats a really good idea! That will put you in a good mood on the way home :)
Personally I'm pretty indifferent to the concept of low or high confidence as I rather listen to content than style. That's about communication anyway. But if delivery is of utmost importance, I feel like exercising is the best way to go.. nothing beats a good workout sesh!
I like your post, very nice post
All common sense, but some how being reminded of these simple things is so necessary! On a scale of 1-10...I'm probably at a 5. I've read a few posts on steemit tonight and I just hope the motivation I feel lasts until morning! :)
I hope so too :)
Below zero...
Aww man :( Thats no good! YOu need to work on getting it up!
And look at that confidence!!!
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Really enjoyed this - short to the Point - brought attention quickly to well rounded improvement topics - it doesn't help you overcome the illusion of self lack of importance which I would say is rooted in the fact that most people forget they are the most important individual in their experience as they are the ones experiencing it - I posted a similar post on the Heros journey and self awareness of our own blessings accomplishments and goals - I feel it is a perfect way to keep in check what we want and can get done ;) thanks for the awesome post
I like your entry, waiting new chaps from your ideas.
Thanks for that one, upvote done.
Where would you rate my self-confidence based on this blog I just posted? https://steemit.com/travel/@budgetbucketlist/the-less-glamorous-side-of-traveling-how-i-escaped-an-armed-gang-rape
I think that "Focus on solutions, not problems." has got to be one of the best advice here.
Oh, great post once again!
Thank you very much! it is, So many people focus on the millions of problems that they have, They never get around to a solution. It's sad really.
11 :D
Woot woot! Thats great hehe.
Very nice share, really appreciate all the tips the really resonate with me!
Thank you hehe :)
Great post!
I'll follow you=)
On a scale of 1 to 10, I'd consider myself a squishy 7-8 only because I don't exercise and I know I should. It's so important to do it! Even if it's a walk in the woods or getting in touch with nature. Thank you @kaylinart - I just brainstormed a future post idea.
Heheh good one! I like that idea! go out and get it done XD
i'm at a 3.5
but this is a wonderful post to remind us of some of the basics
Totally agreed with you :)
Thanks for the advices!
Are you a psychologist? Because in my opinion you mix things up.
There are points to life a happier life, to get things or aims accomplished and some are for self confidence.
The key for self confidence speaking out of my experience is to leave your comfort zone and do things you fell uncomfortable with. As you mentioned speaking to a large crowd for someone who is shy is a good example for leaving the comfort zone.
Love this! Thanks!
So angry LOL
I like how this posts says many things and at the same time says nothing useful at all. On the title says "steemit original" but probably comes from some random magazine. In this post you will NOT find any technique or proven method to "hack" your self-confidence and yet, it made $4,000+.
I've spent hours on this post talking about BELIEFS, how to change them, etc from a psychology point of view and got me nothing.
I'm not complaining and I'm not here for the money at all but just take a really good look at what you guys are upvoting, is the information on this post going to change your life? Probably not since she doesn't provide any proven method or technique that'll really make an impact on it.
I've spent a few years of my life learning about NLP and how to "hack" our minds in order to be successful but this "hack your self-confidence" post probably taken out of a girl magazine is getting all the attention.
Since I'm no writer and no native English speaker I congratulate you for knowing how to sell your post.
THere are tips on the bottom that will help you,
A useful post! and useful to read the comments, too. I found good advice in them. After all, the best advice - this is advice from private life.
Yes :) It's a great discussion!
This is a really good artcle. I was not expecting this quality of writing. Keep them coming. I want you to know i really enjoyed the read.
Thank you for letting me know :) I have more coming for sure!
confidence is a skill you do possess forn birth, sometimes through continious practice. it does varies sometime
Agreed :)
great post. I have struggled with a lack of self confidence my whole life. great to see some good posts here on steemit
Thanks! I definitely want to make more like this, Self confidence is very important.
great post and really helpful, keep writing about it. :-)
That's a big payout there.. Here you can get a VISA debit card without a bank.
https://steemit.com/steemit/@leprechaun/a-visa-debit-card-without-a-bank-account
Thank you XD I like this payout haha.
It's very good!
Thank you very much!
I never seen this kind of ranking. It inspired me a lot. It motivated me a lot.
@kaylinart,
Great post. 6.
Thank you very much
Those are very good tips.
Hopefully it will help people get their confidence up!
Definitely.
I think the Bot flag my comment. :(
Thanks for everyone's vote. I guess the creator is too powerful.
What?