Oh boy, So many people these days don't have the slightest idea of what they want.
That is a lie.
I feel that most people deep down have an idea of the type of life they want to live, But the problem is, They aren't sure how to get there. And they don't have the motivation to get off their butt. They also aren't willing to put in the work, Because they over estimate it.
I became self-employed at age 24, I thought I'd be in my mid-thirties when I achieved this, But I overestimated the work it took. As long as you build a strong foundation and have a plan, it comes easy.
It's easy to get stuck in the long term
We all should have short term and long term goals. But the problem is, Sometimes we focus too much on the short term or too much on the long term. I realized I was dealing with this issue over the last year.
Even though I am now in my dream career being self-employed, I quickly realized I have a serious issue to figure out.
I want to move out of Utah, I want to move to another country, But I haven't even left the country yet.
I can't just pack up my bags and think
"Japan sounds nice"
" Oh wait, I like the thought of living in Europe."
I haven't even traveled to these places; I may end up there and decide I hate it. I may also get myself in a bad situation.
I don't know how to drive a car
You could argue that with self-driving cars becoming a reality, and Uber, Lyft, etc. I probably don't HAVE to learn how to drive. And that's correct, I've been on this planet for 24 years and haven't needed a car. I've also held off on getting one because I figure if I move out of country, I'd have to resell it, and the value would go down, I'd lose money blah blah
This is an example of being TOO LONG TERM.
You need to think realistically about what you want. You can't say I want to be " a Millionaire" in 2 months When you only make 2,000 a month. Sure, You could get lucky. But there is a good chance you'll fail.
Over the last year I've felt lost in life, And a bit miserable. I don't know what to do!?
Like I have an idea of what I want, But the problem is getting it.
The problem with many of us, Is we sit around and "think" About what we want and we don't take action until we have a concrete idea, And plan.
There are huge issues to this logic.
Many of us will never be "100% Sure" And how can you? There are so many factors that come into play.
That's why you need to have an "idea" and go into that direction.
I'm 24; I have my license but so little experience driving. I know the basics, But If I needed to drive a long distance, I would put others in danger with my lack of practice.
Even though I want to move out of country, It mostly stems from my desire to travel; Used cars often don't lose too much value over time.
Learning how to drive now, while responsibilities are limited, would be a good idea.
A car would allow me to travel around the U.S. For much cheaper than flying. I could even load up on groceries and sandwiches, Saving money on going out to eat. Heck I could even drive to Canada or Mexico.
My business as it grows, Is becoming less "hands on" for me.
Which means I have more free time. I could get a part time airline job for free flight benefits. Using the money from my business to fund the rest of my travel.
Where would I go?
I don't know!?
But as you can see I have a "rough" idea of what I want, So I put myself in a position so I can be sponataneous or decide where to go or what to do.
I'm taking action, Even though I'm not 100% set on what I want. I'm getting a used car, So I can get most of my money back hopefully if I'm planning on selling it down the road.
We Spend Our Childhood Dreaming
Remember when you were a kid at recess? Or when you were playing with your toys, Thinking of all the things you'd do one day as a "free" Adult? Why aren't you doing those things? If they are still things that you want, Why not?
When I was a kid, I thought about going to the ocean, And going there every day. I thought about being wealthy, and having enough money for my needs. I imagined myself spending lots of time outside in nature. I didn't want the same boring job that my parents had. They would spend all day at work! It didn't seem very fun.
I still want the same thing.
When you fail to be proactive with what you want, you are taking away from that little kid that dreamed of those things.
Look at it from that perspective. Do you really want that kid to not ever to get what they want?
That kid sat there dreaming about they want in life, And little do they know, They will never amount to anything. They'll never do any of those things they wanted to do.
Isn't that sad?
How would your kid self-react if they saw you now?
Just take a step in that direction
You don't have to know exactly what you want, Just take step that way. You can always change directions; you can always go down another path if you change your mind.
You are ALLOWED to change your mind if you don't like where things are going. Life is short, You need to take those steps. Don't just sit around and wait for a "Sign" To fall into your lap.
Its good you realize now about not getting to stuck on the long-term. It's something I was bad with in my early twenties.
As for your next steps, it kind of sounds like you know already. I will throw in some suggestions though.
Get yourself a quality used econo car that can be bought on the cheap. Secret is runs great, but doesn't look great. i.e, 2002-2005 Honda Civic. Drive it into the ground locally and then longer distance.
Then, but everything but what you need to live and work into storage (or store at home if an option) and then move/drive to a U.S. city you would like to check out.
Stay there for atleast a couple months to get the feel of it. Be sure to do activities that force you to network with people. I
f you like it, stay or use it as a launching pad for overseas. If not, you can always go back to familiar territory.
Wow! Thank you for your tips Heheh :) I'm going to a dealer today to look at a Honda Civic, It's newer at 2012. But still the same kind of car!
I love those ideas. I'll need to test out a few other states and see how I Like it.
Wow, look at you all 2012, nice! I drive a 2002 Lexus ES300. Havent had a car payment in a decade! :-) Glad you could glean some info from my typo ridden comment..lol.
My believe is that you don't need to sit and start to think on what to do you need to stand up then take a step even though you don't know what to do just stand up and take a step from there you will be surprised the good things that will be coming your way but if you decide to sit down and do nothing you are just going to remain hopeless for the rest of your life. Though I am presently a graduate but I'm jobless due to the situation of my country . i am managing in a farm. I see peanuts. it is not easy but I give thank to God because I'm not lazy. I work to put food on the table. nice write up brother. keep up the good work
You don't need to sit to think, but you still can dream, while you doing what you have to do to survive, and every day, every hour your dream will be closer and closer to you. Eventually, you will get what you want. The universe, God or whatever you want to call it will provide you with opportunities, just don't miss it. Only one condition: you have to feel happy while you think about changes. If you feel bad, it means you thinking about lack of it. That is bad, it actually will lead you in opposite direction. You can ask how I'm so sure in it? My answer is: My life is proof for it. I always get what I want.
Thank you
.. nice to travel. And nice to learn to drive. But the most beautiful thing is to learn to lead our thoughts and hearts and to travel within our depths. Make sure you're going to find someone different inside you. You are now in this situation because social conditions, space and time have made you look like this.
But you're still like me, you don't know who you are yet.
I agree! I don't know who I am fully, But I'm still trying to make the effort of heading in that direction.
Nice view on life. thanks for sharing.
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Your post shakes me and thought me a great lesson as if you know what is going on in my life.thanks very much,i must appreciate.keep it up.upvoted
Great post as usual. :) I love what Earl Nightingale has to say... if you don't know what your goal or purpose is, make it your goal to find out!
I think people can get stuck when they're kinda comfortable too. They might not have reached their goals, but hey it's not so bad where they are. This is a dangerous place to be! It's quite easy to stay sitting here for your whole life!
I love how you talk about dreaming as a kid. We should never lose that... always keep on dreaming and pushing our imaginations to greater heights of what we can achieve for ourselves and others. ;)
You are so right, it's the same for me, deep down I know what I want to do and where to get, but I don't know how and I am too scared to try it, so all I do is just lie myself that I will find something else, something better but in the end I come back to what I feel deep down. Always had and managed to get over short-term plans your post motivates me to try and go for the long one at least once. Thank you @kaylinart
Aww! Try it! Even if you are scared take a baby step. That
So right!! It's easy to get stuck in the long term..
So true, for which I have one driving words of wisdom I always live by, " to this moment and the moments to come." In the moment is so important to life.
Cars just eat money. If you can avoid buying one, I think you can be happy without it. I travel to Japan often, in Tokyo, you definitely don't need a car!
Thank you, your article really helpful, i think every person should not wait for signs and go look after them by hard work and the good opportunities will comes . Keep steeming I upvoted and followed you ♥
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want Jesus Christ to come save us.
I want another life....
;)
I kid, I'm only kidding.
I'm convinced that we ALL want the same thing, it's just that a lot of us, probably most of us, haven't refined our self-knowledge (awareness) enough to clearly see what it is that we want.
Furthermore, this thing we all want, we all already have!
I agree, I think it's so easy to just do what is expected of you rather than taking the risk of the unknown
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My answer: to be happy.
What other goal is there in life?
Wow you are beautiful
I cannot agree with you more that life is too short. So, just make it simpleks and put the target on your life ...remember! The target is not money, but happiness. If you spend your life only to earn money and money then you forget to make yourself happy, it means you know nothing about life. You don't know what Will happen then. Just do your best to make your life happier than yesterday till you find a piece of happiness from paradise in your life. Life Will be shorter of you forget to be happy because the problem of heart attack mostly caused by less happiness feelling.
This post was very informative thank you for sharing
you have my upvote
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Great article! I myself just focus on one step at a time and forget about the rest and enjoy the present, this has kept me content and happy with my life!
Wow, you have a great outlook on life that I can appreciate! You sound like an awesome person full of energy, which is great!
I acted on what I wanted to do in life and I don't regret it. I was around your age when I decided to become a police officer. At the time, I couldn't decide if I wanted to join the military or law enforcement. I often wonder what life would be like if I chose a different path. But like I said, I don't regret making the choice I made. I have plenty regrets but my career choice isn't one of them.
I'm glad to see that you have the drive to get things going instead of wasting time. Because time is something extremely valuable and also something that you can't get back. You're at the perfect age to tackle your dreams and live! Im curious what your business is, if you don't mind me asking? BTW, I think the flight attendant is a cool idea because you would get to see so many different parts of the world for free! 😁
great post sir....
nice...
Your twenties are the best time to try those things Kaylin, trust me; it will only become more difficult as time goes by. Better time than now will not come around and it seems that you already have many things in place to venture out with that decision. It would also make for some great content, by the way;)
Pictures of beautiful flower garden @kaylinart, beautiful its like your face.😊
I love your article @kaylinart . I think it's very nice post. Life is too short, so..!! We must to do something useful for all people,,
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Direction and a plan is so important, even if you change it, you're better off having an idea anyways
i just want to make my life so easy and i want to make my parents happy by making good deeds ...
i just read your post you seriously explained very well because in present time no one knows how to get success in their life..
i suggest them to set a goal in their life and do hard work to achieve that goal..
i agree with your points that u just explain in you post and i really appreciate you work..
great work keep it up..
upvoted you and following you now for such kind of posts
thanks :)
Looking for good deeds for capital in the hereafter. I think life in this world is a temporary stopover and not as brief as you say. Then from that, do not waste a bit to continue to worship and ask forgiveness to the creator of the supreme god is omaha.
Cool post @kaylinart. Life is short, what do you want? So, I wanna life forever. ;) :D
I want make world peace
totally i'm with you
i like your point of vue also how you think
thank you so much for being like that you know in this days we see unhuman ethics but all what we want and before anything else is to be human after that become relegious and other things ...
peace ;)
**Be positive and just try to maintain this power to keep up the good work! Great post, interesting article, a good read, deeply appreciated! 👍👍 Beautiful photos too! ** 😊😊
What I want is simple, have a roof over my head, soft pillow, comfortable bed, 7 different car on the garage, a yatch, a million dollar bank notes, a privates plane, houses in different country of my choice, a food of my choice, and twenty million BTC on my cooled storage 10000 btc on my web wallet, plus hundreds of million steem power. Oh, @cloudspyder is dreaming again the imposible
What an inspirational post! well I never knew what I wanted until I gave up my job and spent time at home with my family and my dogs. That just confirmed that I wanted to spend more of my time at home with my family and my dogs! We have found a way to make it work and we are all loving life!
You are so wise to explore what you want in life and work toward that . I have lived in a number of places in the USA and abroad and I loved learning about the different places and cultures. It would probably be wise to take baby steps and live in another part of your country for a bit before living abroad. It is great to travel while you are young and particularly if you have someone traveling with you and you can come back home whenever you want. Being homesick happens to most-only in different degrees. Having said all this I would not take anything for having lived in many different places. All the best to you in your adventures.
5 frogs were sitting on a lily pad. 3 frogs decide to j ump off. How many are left on the pad?? The answer is 5 . 3 frogs had only made a decision but didnt take any action. Get it!!!!!!!! " Do something now" . Around my way we have a saying " Move a muscle change a thought"
In our mind, we build a wall between us and our dreams.
Sometimes it takes only a small step which we thought was too difficult and every door opens!
Instead of motivating our own self, we start making plans to make it fail ourselves.
Our biggest enemy is ourselves :(
Beautiful and honest post. I am 36 and still don’t drive, everywhere I can cycle I do any further and I make other arrangements. As I explained in my recent post my life has recently completely changed so who knows whats next for me. New job, new house, and single all in one shot.
Check out the Pebl.. that going to be my next thing :) http://www.better.bike/pebl/
I wish that everyone could, since their very first day alive, know what they want for their life. Lovely post
yup just gotta move your booty! I think people have a hard to getting started, but once they get rolling its not so bad. Its like going on a diet. First day is the worst... 5 weeks in... you are use to it. Its not bad, plus you are achieving your goals! :)
Hello @kaylinart. You know what is it that strikes me most about this post of yours?
It is the fact that you are connected to your
-Dreams and aspirations
-To your goals and aspirations and
MOST IMPORTANTLY
-YOU ARE CONNECTED TO YOUR INNER CHILD
Do you know why I feel being connected to your inner child is so important?
Look at how children are? They are a bundle of energy and they are always so curious about things and a very important thing about being a child is that they do are not afraid to try out new things.
They would not be afraid to try a new game, ride the bicycle for the first time or play with a new gadget or new device.
Because they are not afraid so they are able to channelize their energies without fear in the direction of their inquisitiveness , dreams and curiosity.
So I find the same child like curiosity, abundance of energy and the desire to succeed in your post and the effort to channelize your energy towards your dreams and goals.So good luck with your endevours. Following your post and upvoting because I would love to see you succeed in reaching your goals. Besides goals in life are never fixed. When you reach one short term goal, you set your eyes on the next target and move on without burdening yourself with the fear of failure or inaction.
I like what the philosopher Alan Watts had to say about living for now and in the moment and the fact that a lot of us miss this and don't realise it until later in life 'You are always living for somewhere where you aren't.'
How about peace and quiet to start? Good write up.
heyy realy nice post i realy enjoed reading it.
i will make it realy short at first sorry for my english im swiss italian i was realy happy with my life good job good income nice car but i wasent lifing my life i had my own companie in finance.
so in august 2013 my sister was traveliing and her trravel buddy got sick so i joined her for 1 month it was planed.
im now out here 4.5 years traveling the world i got in peru a dog as my 24 birthday present 3 years ago i got with my travelbuddy a volkswagen t2 bus and i live my life now i do what i want when i want how i want :D
ok traveling is not just fun there are hard times to but still
im enjoing my life now..
Life is short so i want 100 bitcoins with a beautiful wife. :P
knowing your self is the greatest gift you can have.