I'm sure I approached this topic in the past, but I'm gonna do it again, simply because it's a good idea to talk about this once in a while, both for myself and for those who need to be reminded that how we feel is, most of the time, our responsibility.
When I'm on YouTube trying to find something interesting to watch, I often stumble upon videos about feminism, drama on Twitch, people criticizing others for their decisions, copygright abuses on the platform, and so on.
Those kind of topics attract me in a way, like they attract a lot of other people, and the reason is fairly simple - we enjoy drama. We enjoy negativity. We may not enjoy it when something bad happens to us, but when it does to other people, we kinda like seeing how things are going.
I'm not sure why, but it's just how it is.
However, that drama will sometimes lead to something you may not like, to something that may "offend" you, something that may upset you. It may be someone criticizing something you believe in, or someone using a word you hate, or someone criticizing something you really like.
And when that happens, we usually have two ways to react - either leave a comment or send a message to that person explaining how we're right and how they are wrong, or criticizing that person for criticizing something we like, or, the second option, we can simply leave.
The thing about "leaving" is that doing that often seems like a defeat. It feels like we didn't act the way we should have, and that we let the other person "get away" with their critiques without defending what we so much like.
But saying something to someone who talks trash about what we like often leads to absolutely nothing. We sometimes live under the impression that we can change the opinions of other people, but we rarely can. If someone thinks that what you like is bad, then it's gonna be hard to change their opinion no matter what you do.
And if that's the case, then you're stuck with a feeling that makes you feel powerless, like someone kicked something you love and you weren't capable of doing anything at all.
That's why it's a good idea to simply ignore criticism and things you don't like. Even if you get "hurt", even if you get "offended", there's simply nothing you can do about it. You have no influence over your feelings and how you feel about different situations, but you do have control over your reaction.
Simply getting away from the video/article/person who made you feel bad is the best thing you can do. It may not feel like it at that moment, but in the long run, you'll realize it's just the only way to enjoy your time on the Internet without being constantly angry.
That's why I don't watch videos about feminists any more. That's why I mute almost everyone in League of Legends nowadays, and I almost always play alone. That's why I'm not getting in conversations on Twitter and I just block people that I dislike.
It's just not worth spending time trying to convince someone that they're wrong, or that they are negative people, or hypocrites. You probably won't be able to change their mind, and that will only lead to more frustration.
How you feel about most things in life may not be under your control at the beginning. In time however, you're the one who decides how to feel based on what videos you watch, what articles you read, what games you play, and so on.
It's no one's responsibility to care for you and to make you happy. It's definitely no one's responsibility to censor themselves or the things they do because you don't like them or their actions. You're the one controlling whether to be around those people or not, or whether to be interested in what they do or to simply ignore them.
So, instead of complaining that life is ugly, unfair and that nothing is the way it should, maybe it's time for you to change the things you focus on and invest more energy and time into searching for the things you like.
I'm not sure if it's a good idea to pretend that everything is hunky dory and A ok, when we have to look at facts and critically analyze what is going on around us. To me, it seems as if you are suggesting ignorance and I rather be enlightened about what is going on. You say life, but this is a man-made creation and things are the way they are because we choose to support this system. I much rather try and make improvements in this world instead of focusing on rainbows and cupcakes. In order to focus on solutions, we must identify to problems. Too many people are living their lives in the dark and thinking that they can just live for themselves, when that is not what life is about. Life is about working together and helping one another, not killing each other and living under a corrupt system. If people are selfish and ignorant they will become sick and miserable. It's like eating a McDonalds hamburger and thinking it takes so good, when it is filled with toxic chemicals that are poisoning us. You have to look at the facts and not give in to temptation because it feels good.
Actually, I never said we should ignore every problem because everything is okay and there's nothing to be done to improve the world.
I said that more people should learn how to control themselves, and to realize that while how we feel is not something we can control, how we act based on those feelings is something we have control over, and what we can control is what type of information we receive and consume, which will automatically dictate how we feel in general.
I also didn't mention serious problems like world hunger, diseases, poverty, climate change, and so on.
I mentioned "problems" that some entitled people have who consider themselves or the people who they relate to be better than others and who live under the impression that if they have a certain opinion, then everyone should have a similar one, otherwise the world is wrong.
I also mentioned "problems" that people who only want attention have.
I even gave examples: feminism, people criticizing others for their decisions, copyright abuses on YouTube, Twitch drama.
If you're not familiar with those topics, allow me to describe each of them (and what I meant by mentioning them) in a short way in order to explain exactly what I meant:
Feminism - I don't mean the movement that is described by the definition of the word "feminism", but what the word means lately, which is related to angry and frustrated women who believe that all men are evil and rapists, that all women are being oppressed, that men are being paid more for the simple fact that they are men, and that women are being treated unfairly every moment of the day.
People criticizing others for their decisions - this is a broad subject, but I meant mainly trivialities, like a someone criticizing another person for being vegan/non-vegan, someone else criticizing another person for playing a certain type of video game, for using a certain song, for talking in a certain way, or even accusing others of false things.
Copyright abuses on YouTube - this is pretty self-explanatory. Copyright abuses on YouTube is a topic that won't go away anytime soon, and there's not much you, I or anyone can do at the present moment to change it, since it's not up to us, but to the platform and the people dictating how YouTube is working. There are reasons why the copyright system is the way it is, and changing it is not a good option as of right now, for several reasons.
Twitch drama - where should I start? People criticizing "twitch thots", which are mainly women who stream while being dressed with revealing clothes in order to get more attention from people, others accusing other people of God knows what, other people being mad about someone saying something, etc. Nothing serious just boring drama created by people who probably want some attention.
Out of all the things I mentioned above or in the article, there's no "serious" problem that I said we should ignore. If you think those are serious subjects that need "fixing", then you're my guest in trying to convince crazy feminists that not all or most men are rapists, in trying to stop people from criticizing others, in trying to fix the copyright system on YouTube and in trying to eliminate twitch drama.
Sorry for the confusion and the long reply, but it seems like you didn't properly read the article, because I didn't advise anyone to ignore serious problems, I just advised people to ignore stupid and useless ones that only affect them emotionally without bringing anything valuable in their life.
Thank you for getting back to me and explaining your article. I can understand your point now and I agree, people need to stop criticizing others and blaming the wrong people people for their problems. This has been a tactic to conquer and divide us against each other. We have allowed ourselves to be controlled and manipulated and we each have a responsibility for this. Anger and hate will never get us to a better place, only understanding and connection, acceptance and respect. Any woman who hates any man is a sad and miserable person and vice versa. The infighting is getting us nowhere because we are not identifying our common agitators which is the global elite. I do not hate them, but I do not support them with what they are doing. They are misinformed and low-functioning. I appreciate your clarification on your topic.