It seems to me that based on your post, I can positively say that if you were to say that word around melanated individuals, it would be taken as derogatory and disrespectful.
Example ... people that DO use that word when amongst themselves or acquaintances DO NOT or HAVE NOT ever needed permission to use that word.
The fact that you are wondering if you yourself are allowed to say it, most likely means that you should not be saying it.
There is not much positivity that can or will come from unmelanated individuals using such a word.
The fact that your Kenyan girlfriend is melanated changes nothing about the word. African-Americans in the America's are often identified as black, however even though she may be dark-skinned, she has a Nationality and culture that is very different from that of the American so called 'Black' man.
In some circles, it would even be wise for her to avoid the use of the word.
Please do not feel the need to use that word. InshaAllah
I think you are missing the point here. Or maybe I am explaining it wrong.
To me its just a word it means nothing. Any name you could call me would mean nothing. It obviously means something to you because you refrain from using it.
The point here is its UNFAIR. I am not wondering if i should say it. I will say what I want when I want. I however do respect peoples feelings. I am simply having a debate. I see you want different rules for different people. To me thats NOT fair. How can the world strive for equality when everyone thinks they are special and deserve to be treated differently?
If we want to be equal and fair if one is allowed to do it we should all be allowed.
My Kenyan girlfriend was an example that I am not racist and when people have said nigger to her they have no idea where she comes from.
Just like you are rude to post my story on your channel trying to say I am ignorant! LMFAO
Please stop trying to play you have the moral high ground because you do not!
This is nothing to do with ignorance!