Jealousy is this weird thing, and I'm not even sure what it's biological purpose is. It makes us hate someone who often times has done nothing to us to get that hate. Bottom line, it doesn't serve us.
I have some rules on what you can do when you can't help yourself but be jealous. Bottom line, we have our own journey. Jealousy does nothing but hold us back!
Here are the rules of dealing with Jealousy.
1. RealizeThat Jealousy Doesn't Get You Anywhere
In fact, it brings you backward. Especially if you've made some good progress. It brings out the worst in us.
Complaining or talking about other people and their accomplishments makes us act negatively towards that person. That person may be a good resource or friend. You're not getting anything out of it, but you might lose your dignity.
All we're doing when we think of how good someone else has it is reminding ourselves that we feel crappy. It makes us feel like a pile of shhhhhaving cream. It makes our jaw tight and our head hurt.
2. Focus On Your Goals
Stop worrying about what everyone else is doing. You got your own stuff to get done. Focus on your own goals.
If it takes you a little longer to get to where you want to be, that's you're own journey. Embrace it and embrace the bumps that come with it. You're not going to learn anything getting straight A's your whole life. Adversity makes us better.
You have a long road ahead of you. Don't let your brain lie to you about someone being in your way. You're in your own way.
(See also: Dealing With Depression)
3. Realize That Jealousy Is A Waste Of Time
What could you be doing with all that time you're spending being jealous? I'll tell you what that person you're jealous of is doing. They're being successful. If you want to be some nobody that doesn't get better and only wastes his time, have at it!
The worst is when that person your jealous of isn't a good winner, they rub it in your face. My goal is to be that person's boss one day, not lie down and give up. It might not be realistic, but it gets me motivated.
4. Just Do What You Love
Many times we're jealous of someone who is good at what we love to do. I could be jealous of someone who picks up yoga or jiu-jitsu faster than me. I have to ask myself, "does this type of thinking make me better at what I love?"
Just continue loving what you do. You don't want to hate it. Then, what's the point of doing it anymore?
"Don't let your brain lie to you about someone being in your way."
5. Have Fun
Have fun with it. Isn't that why we do the thing we love in the first place? When someone beats you to the punch, say "roger that" and drive on.. Get out of your hole and smile.If you're busy being angry, people will stay away from you. Not only will you be jealous, but you'll be that person who's all alone because you're to poison to be around. Jealousy is poison, be the antidote. Everyone else is trying to enjoy life. All you're doing is sulking, and nobody's feeling sorry for you.
6. Relax:
You might be jealous only because of the fact that you worked too hard and feel like that work didn't add up to anything. I guarantee, if you did something, you are better at that thing you did only because you did it. You are making progress. Relax and stop worrying and measuring.
Do a full body scan and see what's tense. Lie down and relax your jaw. It's probably been tensed for a week. You're jealous of them, but you're beating yourself up! Relax and light a candle.
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7 Respect Yourself
You're doing good. Respect yourself. Some people are just going to be better than you, but you're still better than those people sitting on the couch. You're at least making an effort to follow your dreams.
Respect your effort and the work you put in. Tell yourself "thank you." Look around at all you have worked for and the opportunities you have going forward.
Be humble. We're not so important. You just want to be important. Just get up and do, stop wishing. And stop watching from afar. If I only watched from afar, I'd never have the guts to start a blog that nobody reads ;)
In Conclusion:
Jealousy is a horrible being. It's a parasyte that's latched on to your chest. It's sucking the energy right out of you!
Let that parasyte let go of your chest. Focus on yourself. Respect yourself and have fun. Wish that other person a good game, or congratulations on the promotion. Tell your lawyer brother, you love him!
Where Is This Challenge: Here is my recent challenge post. See if you can guess the location and win 0.1 SBD.
