Thanks.
I don't have kids myself, but I assume you never know as a parent. My mum was brought up as a child of laborors who only wanted for their kids to have a better life than they had. I'm sure my mum only wanted the best for me, but had taken over the values her parents had taught her. I believe every parent only wants the best for his children. And it is still an ongoing idea that being successful in society, is a good thing.
I'm probably an exception of the rule, because although I love teaching, my job as a teacher makes me unhappy. I don't like having to comply to the rules our education system has set, so I'm muchhappier being unemployed, even though that means I have to do with less. My mum.couldn't get that. Like I said , I think the generation gap had a lot to do with how we looked at life.
The only way to find out how your children are experiencing your efforts as a parent, is by communicating about it, I guess. There's nothing wrong with stimulating them to allow them to become the best they can be, but I think it's important to agree on what 'the best'means to all parties.
Being unemployed for more than half of the years since I graduated, has given.me the chance to work on personal growth, which I think is way more valuable than having a good job and earn a lot of money.
Of course, it's easy for me to make that choice, because I live in a country that has a social security system in place, which is one of the best ones in the world...
I'm sure we all do the best we can
It may not always be best for the other person... and that's where the parent child dynamics can be tricky
I do communicate with them all the time... but sometimes their choices scare me... but it shouldn't because my Mum (surely not from her time) even though wanted so much more for me, supported my decisions of becoming a DJ. And over the years, I realise how crazy that is... but of course right up to the end, she waited patiently for me to get a real job ... hahaha... Bless her
The Hubs is a lot like my Mother... so they are lucky in that sense.... he tells me let them be the best in what makes them happy.... which is also what I want for them... but I have these triggers and these fears and on a bad day these little "expectation gremlins escape and have a field day"
Keeping them in check... even more so now that I read your post <33
That's one of the reasons I decided I didn't want to have kids. I would probably have limited them because i would be so afraid that they would make the wrong choices, or - even worse - that something would happen to them. I'd probably lock them up in a golden cage and control their entire lives, even with my background.
So I presumed having kids wouldn't be not such a good idea :0)
hahahaha
Yeah, I have considered that
Locking them up in a basement or something hahaha
Lucky houses in my country don't have basements or attics ;p
Thanks @simplymike
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