Not long ago i had a conversation with my 7 year old son, i criticize him about something and he got angry and sad for a second. Then i looked at him and said, son when someone tells you to do something better or tells you that you are wrong, then listen good to that person and see if he is correct.
Then when he is correct, then learn from your mistakes and you will never lose, because you gain the knowledge of your past mistake. That means you can never lose my son, and always win, its just the prices are sometimes different. He smiled and gave me a hug.
But with adults is a complete other ball game, because if someone never learns about the "flight and flee" system in there brain. Then most of the people will either flee ( ignore your statement or go away ) or fight ( and never accept there mistakes and will use non arguments to prove that they are right ). For that reason i do small test with people to see if they understand that, because i don't want to be a in situation with someone who don't understand it. Then you might as well go in a argument with a door or a wall.
And my son is just a kid, and he got the age to learn how to use it, then he can master it before he grows up. And that's the problem with many adults, they never learn that.
Thanks for sharing!