You know , I am happy that along the line you admited to the fact that sometimes women are at fault . But from my understanding of physics as an engineer , Newton's Third Law of motion says that for every action there is an equal and opposite reaction. And for an effect to be avoided or removed, we have to focus on the cause.
Now instead of channeling our energy on calling men who beat their wives illitrates how about talking to the women to stop provoking their husbands. When has provoking anyone to anger been a num? Even the Bible said...do not put the lord your God to test.
Why would anyone consciously provike another and expect the person to turn a blind eye and act like nothing happened. Isn't that cruelty? It's a different thing if you guys are having an argument and then because he feels he is the man, he hits you ...that's very bad. But most women these days would consciously provike their husbands to anger by calling him all sorts of names and some even go to the extent of slapping their husbands but expect him not to get angry...Isn't that abuse on its own ?
We need to channel our energy on educating the women on how to control their emotions. Anger is emotional as well and if you women can't control you emotions when you get angry, please do not call men who can't control theirs illitrates...that's being bias and a feminist.
I didn't wanna concentrate my time and energy on the "cause" of anger because i didn't wanna deviate from the main topic here....talking about causal effects of anger would mean me making a totally different post under another post, that was why...and i know you have read the post before now. If you haven't well, what exactly does this mean to you??
"Instead of wallowing in self-pity I made the choice to channel my frustrations and negativity into something productive and energizing. My wife and I had a disagreement about some things so I decided to get out of the house to bask in the beauty of the day"
@humanearl had a disagreement with the wife(we don't know who was to blame for that), but what was more important right at that point was how he reacted to it.
Personally, i have been pissed a lot of times and i have reacted badly a lot of times too. Sometime last year "something" changed my mentality 360...you remember i said this too. This totally suggests i got some knowledge about something i didn't know before, and from that time, my mentality changed. So when you saw "illiterate" in my comment, you should not have come off totally defensive and offended, except of course you feel some pinch of guilt about being "illiterate" to anger control.
I understand your point, but i would have given this more concern if you had asked what exactly i meant by seeing the men who can't vent anger differently except by hitting their wives as "illiterates"...other than circling round to the feminist word. When you see words like " illiterate" next time, try to get a better understanding of what that person actually means, especially if it wasn't used for the general meaning. I could be musically illiterate as the case may have been, you could be an illiterate for not knowing how best to control and manage anger in more positive ways other than destruction.
Women and men are all human beings with emotions. And it is rightly said, you are allowed to get angry, but not to stay angry. That doesn't in anyway eliminate the fact that women could be causal factors of anger.
But if you @sistem or @humanearl makes a post about women's roles in being causal factors of anger, then i would give you my opinions 100%.