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RE: What's True for Me

in #life7 years ago

Agreed...it is interesting how nudity is more of an issue some places vs others. I'm very grateful for the freedom on steemit to show what we want to share, tag it nsfw if need be, and and then let it be.

And don't even get me started on the male/female areola issue! 🤣

Thanks for the compliment and the comment. 🙏🏽

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Yes, this nsfw feature is just one of the things I appreciate here. Still trying to find out how it works. The quality of the "conversations" is a lot better than anywhere else too

Now you got me curious... how could I get you started on the male/female areola issue? To me it is utterly absurd. What if someone decided, that all of a sudden the female mouth has to be covered? Far fetched? My guess is, that the erotic potential isn't far from that of the female nipple... ans if it wasn't for that, they are both... how can I say... food related O:-)

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Agreed the comments and conversations here are better than anywhere else I've experienced online! Some folks just make more effort here since there is money potential, and others of us are just naturally conversive and have found a community on steemit of like minded folks here. :)

Regarding nsfw...my understanding is that each of us via settings can chose to see nsfw images in our feed, or else select to have them hidden in case you are scrolling thru somewhere that might cause a problem. If you chose to obscure nsfw images, you may still see them by simply clicking on the post.

What is deemed nsfw is a bit subjective, but generally it is anything of the genital region or female nipples...of course.

"Don't get me started..." was just my way of agreeing with you in the absurdity of the male/female nipple controversy. "Don't get me started" means I might go off in a RANT about the ridiculous inequity of that issue.

Really though need to write out my thoughts more on the nipple issue...writing/blogging is how I clarify my stance on issues. The areola issue isn't about nipples. Male/female nipples appear IDENTICAL when isolated in an image. The real issue is the fullness and curvature of the female breast, not the nipple.

I get it. I see it. Female breasts are beautiful and can cause arousal for most, and it's that power of sexual arousal that people have a problem with. Many people still unconsciously believe sex is bad or wrong, or that we should at least deny and hide our sexuality and...sexual beingness. So, if the female breast, which IS punctuated by the nipple, generally triggers arousal, and that's "bad" then they advocate to just avoid all that "mess" and ban the nipple/ keep them covered up.

Hey, thanks for triggering all that 👆🏼for me. This convo just gave me a big insight for another post I'm working on. 🙏🏽

This reminds me of certain members of our extended family would literally walk out of the room when I was breastfeeding, like it was something I needed to do in private or hide. EYE ROLL That's only tangentially related, but this reminded me of it. :)

It a conundrum for many how to act around an open boob! They are beautiful! They are sexy! But then when a breast is used for such a nurturing motherly thing as nursing...well hell, then people don't know what category to put them in. So lots of folks just avoid, like the relatives you mentioned, and leave the room.

Good is that depressing, when my upvote shows no effect. Thanks a lot for yours :-)

Posts with nsfw have to have that as a first tag, right?

Understand and agree completely what you say about the rest. Of course I got it, what you meant with "Don't get me started...". But artists tend to be a bit... provocative (?) and I love it when I can entice someone to a little rant O:-)

Plus to me art is not just about creating something. Someones reaction to it is an essential part and it surprises me quite often.

Very curious for (about...(?).. donno the proper word) the post you are working on.

And wasn't there another one pending about the high heel thingy?

You're welcome for my little vote. My upvote only makes more impact than yours because I have purchased and curated more SP over time. Yours will increase likewise...

Your comment/lament about your upvote's lack of effect caused a song to start playing in my head yesterday. I love this song by Hayling, and It goes, "don't think about all those things you fear. Just be glad to be here." I wanted to say that to you. 🙏🏽 AND (thank u very much) it was the message I needed to receive about a matter causing me angst in my own life. So often I/we worry and wish and focus on what is lacking...and the solution to all of that is always the same - gratitude. Just being grateful for what is and just being glad that we are here now.

Nsfw - I think that can be any one of your tags. Doesn't have to be 1st.

Gosh...I really like conversing with you. So often u say things that really strike me or contribute to something I'm already wanting to write about (like the high heels...I'm getting to it 😉) . Like also what u said about art. I totally agree. It's not just about creating something, but also the viewers reaction. Ultimately art is often an unspoken engagement between the artist and experiencer.

One thing to keep in mind is that we WANT taboos with sex. No one who claims to find whatever it is sexually exciting should seriously resent that. If one finds breasts sexually exciting the last they should want is to wish away the excitement. It's a matter of economics.

The more scarce something is the more we find it valuable. If something is abundant we might not even recognise it's there. Most of us live in such incredible wealth and we still complain as if we have nothing. We can't appreciate all the things we take for granted that for all but an eye blink ago were the number 1 most desired resources. We live like kings, better than kings, but we can't feel it because a king is on the top and since we can see there's so many above us we feel poor.

When sex was more taboo it didn't take much to get someone excited, now much less is taboo and it's harder to get excited. If you like being excited don't try and get rid of the taboos and hope the excitement will stay with you. As soon as what was scarce becomes abundant our focus just shifts up a level.

How would you ever be able to enjoy feeling "liberated" sexually or otherwise if you didn't have anything to be liberated from? How would you ever be able to enjoy food if you were never hungry? If you could eat your favourite food every day all the time how long would it stay your favourite?


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There are those who say the purpose of breasts are for feeding children and so are not sexual, which is a very poorly considered point to make but I've seen it quite a lot when the subject comes up.

The argument is that treating womens breasts as sexual and for mens benefit isn't reasonable (side note, often assumed only men find boobs sexually exciting) when they're not for that purpose. The implication being that the only body parts we should consider sexual is the primary sex organs.

I don't think I've ever seen the response that what we find most physically sexually attractive and most important is usually EVERYTHING APART from their primary sex organs! How else would we ever get to see, or want to see, someones genitals if that wasn't the case? It's particularly strange to see women usually the ones found saying this, as more women tend to list physical features as sexually stimulating that are entirely unrelated to sex. Even the most graphic porn target at men tend to emphasise a womans entirely non-sexual physical features particularly her face as essential. That's not to say humans don't find looking at genitals sexually stimulating, but we only find it stimulating based on context

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Oh boy...what a good point. Let me reply more to this later. Thank you for the thought provoking comment. :)