Of all the pain that you could possibly have in a lifetime,
only a small percentage of all possibilities are actually likely to go wrong.
Statistically thinking. Yes, a number of things are going to go wrong, but the average day you spend will at the worst consist of an argument with your husband or wife, a stubbed toe, and drama between coworkers. And that day feels like a bad day. What I'm saying is that you won't get a die on an average day. You won't even get divorced on an average day, there will be a reason why you Break up. I'm sure you feel confident that you'd notice if things were that bad before it was over, bad. Most days, your life will be mostly routine, unless you aren't an average person. Maybe you have a special job or are a traveler who does new things every day (which probably also has some days of 'feeling old.')
But yes, some things are likely to go wrong, some unknowable day.
Would it be horrible if the worst of your fears actually went wrong?
What if your relationship ended?
You could end up meeting someone new while maintaining a healthy relationship with your current spouse.
What if you didn't meet anyone new?
Being alone doesn't have to be horrible, maybe you'll delve yourself into learning and doing things you are passionate about. Maybe you will be happy and independent.
What if you lost your house?
You can't know if you'll be alright, you will at worst become homeless, but many of you have a relative that would take you in.
If not, there's no point in worrying about it.
What happens if you lose all the people you love?
...I Don't Know
The Reality is that you can Out-Think any negative thought you have with a Positive Thought.
Would it be horrible if the worst of your fears actually went wrong?
Many of you if asked this question would probably say, 'Maybe.'
What if everything you lose makes you very depressed and you kill yourself? Or got killed?
Well you'll be dead, free of this same physical reality, and free of all the not so good feelings. Is that really so bad?
Yes, you will miss people.
That is true.
But there is no holding on.
It's impossible.
So acceptance is required here.
Because you want to end any fear-thinking you may have in your life.
All These Negative Ideas Are Detrimental to Dwell On
Positivity Is What Keeps You Happy
Maybe you don't think fear-thinking isn't you're issue
Maybe you already have all this down and you understand that everything will always be okay in the end.
Maybe you feel this way, but you don't always act this way.
Maybe you're emotional, an overthinker, unstable, awkward, insecure, jealous, angry at the small stuff, frustrated in traffic, ocd, in pain...
You Are Feeling That Way Because You Are Focusing on the Things You Cannot Control.
Take a step backwards and think about the times when you cause your own suffering in your life.
Think about the times you create other people's suffering.
Once you become aware of these things you do, you can take steps towards improving these areas!
This is not a one-stop-shop.
You must work on it. Daily.
The more you do ask yourself about the suffering you cause, the faster you'll find solutions.
Solutions to your problems is what you really want! You want to be happy!
Self-awareness allows you to create your own happiness.
What makes you happy? Since you're going to spend your day focused on stuff anyways, decide to focus on that/them!
Along with making sure you take the time to appreciate the good stuff, bask in the moments of it, savor it, open yourself up to it.
Learn to be excited about the uncertainty of life
With Love,
J
Truthmomma
~Breastfeeding has been my greatest challenge of motherhood so far. Most of the time ily refuses to breastfeed... She prefers the plain sailing bottle. I assumed breastfeeding was the going to be simple, but it has been complicated and disheartening. As my supply lowers(even though I have worked hard to keep it going by using the breast pump), the idea of not having her ever breastfeed again saddens me. So for now I'm going to revel in this moment with gratitude for our mother-daughter connection and feel the love I have for this girl fill every bit of me. 💗
Awesome post! We assign categories to events (good, bad, sad, happy) but it's all just change. And change is good, because life is change. The absence of change is death.
As for breastfeeding... can't help, sorry! Some kids do, some don't. As long as she's happy and eating (something) it's all good.
Thanks for all the support you've been giving me. I really appreciate it. It means a lot to me, coming from you. You seem to be doing well for yourself on here. And you should be, you are a great writer and so wise. Thanks again and I look forward to reading more of your posts!