Sex- A Dependency or Addiction- Part 2

in #life6 years ago

I spoke to Harry about how he was able to control the desire for sex without doing it actually. Harry started telling me his story and that is, he started noticing that his wife was no more interested in sex with him, even while doing it she showed that she was not enjoying it. This negligence and ignorance frustrated him because he got accustomed for her love and suddenly she withdrew it. Some days left without sex, then 1 month whole, then one day he could not bear the frustration and after a lot of hesitation entered into prostitute place, prostitute liked the lovable guy like him who always asked even to the prostitute "are you ok", but that was the place only for sex, not love. He did it a couple of times but a question always came into his mind that "how the mind and body go separately", he started falling love even with the prostitute because he just could not be able to do sex only which is without love. He asked to prostitute if she could do this without money because he was frustrated inside and at that time he was not having money, but prostitute refused. That was the day he decided he needs to do something to control it, and when he started controlling it then after some days desires came like gushing of water from the waterfall. It was like a emotional trauma, he started seeing every woman with lustful eyes, even he acknowledges it and watching what is happening but could not able to control. The second thing he started watching porn, his mind became full of sexual desires throughout the day he was just thinking about sex nothing else. In his heart, he wanted to get rid of it but the body doesn't want him to stop it, totally confused what is right and what is wrong. He loved his wife and his family, don't want to destroy the entire family because kids were also small, so he was determining again and again to curb it.
I just cannot be able to write more now as this is the true story of my close friend whom I love and watched closely during this emotional turmoil.
Guys will try to write more in Part 3.
Neglect anything but never neglect any life, never ever anybody's life taken for granted. Sometimes our close one's expected us to behave like a God but never treated us as human beings and hurt us, neglect us, leave us without even actually knowing their mistake. Harry's wife didn't know this struggle of him because when he said once to his wife that he is sexually frustrated then his wife labelled him as a sexual maniac guy who can rape any woman.
As we can not see our eyelashes, similarly we can not see what is going in the life of our near and dear once especially in this social networking and internet era.
Our spirit wants joy out of sheer values not by consuming ourself too much into this world while neglecting the lives of the people surrounding us.
Thank you so much.