It Is an established fact that no human is infallible, no human is perfect or without flaws. If this is so, then correction is necessary for growth. However, it is the spirit behind the correction that will determine if it will be a stepping-stone to becoming better or a stumbling-block. Do you know that how you correct someone can go a long way to determine if the correction will be taken or not. Anyone can point out flaws, but it takes a person who is mature and wise to correct someone without breaking their confidence. When you correct someone with love, you protect their dignity while also making them to become a better person.
When someone does not get something right, while correcting them, do you say "you have failed" or "you can do better?" I have come to realise that when you speak harshly to someone even if you are right, you may win the argument, but in the long run, you would have lost the person. But when you talk with love with them, even though they feel challenged, they will not feel attacked. Your words should be a mirror that will help them to see who they really are, not a hammer that will break them.
By correcting in love, you apply patience. This is because no building is built overnight, but by continuous progress. Expecting them to change automatically at the press of a button is almost impossible, so be patient with them. More so, you have to know when to speak, and have the wisdom to wait for the right moment. You do not speak in a way to break the person nor the relationship, but to make them to become better. After all, the purpose of correction is not to break them but to make them. There is a way you can deliver even an uncomfortable message and it will be well received and acted upon. More so, you should build confidence in their heart, not fear.
It is worthy to note that that you are correcting them does not mean that you are overlooking their mistakes, rather it means that you are choosing a higher method. That is, you are telling them that you believe that they are higher and better than the mistakes they made. When you put the power back to them to know that they are able to beat their mistakes and become better, they will realise that the success of their life actually lies in their hands, and they will become better. Do not judge or condemn someone because of the actions they have taken, rather help them to become better. Trust me, some of what you condemn people for, if you are put in their position, you may even do worse than them.
You may not know what you are capable of doing until you are put in certain positions or you are faced with certain challenges. Until some things happen directly to you, you will really not understand why some people make the kind of decisions they do, so do not condemn and do not judge. Remember that the idea is to be better. You should help them become better. But if not, at least do not hurt and break them with your words.
Always let your words lift people and put them on their feet, not put them down. Your correction should be like a healing medicine, not like a poison. Most times, it is not about what you say, but the intentions and how you said them. Your tone should remind them that they are valuable, and should help to boose their confidence. Always have in mind that at the end, people may not remember what you taught them, but they will keep remembering how you made them feel. People tend to learn faster, adjust better, and adapt easier when they feel safe. So you have to create an atmosphere of safety with your correction, so that it will not look like persecution or condemnation. Learn to plant a good seed in the life of people and watch them become better people.
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