How you see yourself is a strong determinant of how far you will go in life. Much more than that, it also determines how others will see you. You will be surprised that what limits people is not lack of opportunity, lack of talent, or their background, but how they carry themselves and how they see themselves. When you see yourself small on the inside, your actions will be small, and the result you will get will also be small. What comes out of you is a result of what you have put into yourself. Your actions are majorly rooted in your most dominant thoughts. When you see yourself as positive, courageous, confident, and successful, it will show in your actions.
Having a positive self Image, and seeing yourself in the right way is not pride, rather it is about recognising your worth, knowing your potentials, and knowing your identity, without allowing anything to shrink you. When you see yourself in the right way, there are things you will not welcome in your life. You will not welcome mediocrity, you will not settle for less, and you will not apologise for existing. More so, you will not shrink yourself just to fit into a narrative, and you will not step back when you should step forward. The truth is that there are potentials that are lying inside you. In order to unleash them, you need to begin to see yourself for who you really are. If you do not know who you are, others may try to convince you to believe who you are not.
The journey to your transformation will begin with you correcting the perception about yourself. If you see abilities in you, you will attempt more. If you see values in you, you will treat yourself well. If you believe that you deserve to receive good, you will not settle for less or for "anyhow." Your life will always align with the kind of image that you have created inside your mind. The people who have made it in their fields of endeavour may not have better opportunities than the others, but they were able to create a good mental image of themselves, which gave them what to run with. It is what goes on in your mind that will determine, to a reasonable extent, what goes on around you.
You may have experienced some negative things in the past, maybe disappointments, failures, criticisms, etc, but all these are not supposed to define who you are. You are not to be imprisoned by your past, and it is not supposed to make you see yourself in bad light. There are people who have had rougher past than you, but still managed to create the kind of future they want. You are not defined by what you have passed through, you are only defined by how you see yourself. You may not have had a choice of your background or your starting point, but you definitely have a choice of your finishing point. In order to make the most out of life, you have to see yourself as being part of life itself. See yourself that you deserve good things, and act in that consciousness.
To see yourself the right way, there are things that you need to do. Firstly, you need to learn to speak positively into yourself. What you hear often tend to change your perception. Do not allow others to tell you what they want you to hear, rather tell yourself what you need to hear. Secondly, you need to celebrate your wins, even if they are little. This will make you to know that you are actually valuable and that you have worth. Then you need to stay with the people who also see good in you. Your company can influence how you see yourself. If you stay with the people who always demean you, you may lose your self-worth and see yourself in bad light. So stay with people who will encourage you to become better.
It is true that you may not have been where you want to be, but it does not invalidate the fact that you are trying. More so, you are not where you used to be, so efforts have been made. The more you see yourself the right way, the more things will fall into place to match the mental image of yourself that you have created. Always have in mind that a good self-image is part of the foundations to living a good life.
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