There is a special kind of strength that does not return offence for offence, insult for insult, and does not fight. This is the strength of grace. Just to let you know, grace does not mean that you are weak or passive, but it actually means that you have found a way to put your strengths under control. That is, you know your worth, and will not want to be dragged into unnecessary battles. The point you choose grace over revenge is the point that you rise above where the noise of your enemies cannot get to you. Trust me, one of the reasons why some people offend you is so that you will get angry and revenge, so that they will use it against you or so that they will have control over you. But when you do not revenge, you confuse them and they will not know your next line of action.
One of the things that you need to understand is that revenge places the control in the hands of your enemies, while grace places the control in your own hands. There are times when you may feel like responding to disrespect with disrespect, or insult for insult, which you may see as an easy way out. But this will just end up making you bitter, more hurtful, and generally distracted from the blessedness of life. However, when you choose grace and forgiveness, you will show that you are mature. It takes a level of maturity and clarity of mind to stay strong even in the midst of provocation. It places control in your hands, and tells the offender that "I know what you are doing, but I choose not to take revenge." This will confuse your enemies because you disappointed their expectations of revenge.
It is worthy to note that choosing grace does not mean that you are pretending that the offence did not happen. It means that you are intentional about your life, and that you are protecting your peace, not wasting it on revenge. It also means that you have recognised that not every battle deserves your energy, time, and attention. There are times that the best response to offence is to move forward with dignity. That is, choosing silence over harming your peace over unnecessary battles. After all, what is the point of fighting and winning the battle but losing a far bigger war? Choose your response wisely. Even a no response can be a good response in some cases.
Imagine they mock you for your academic challenges, there is no amount of shouting or fightings that will be worthwhile. The only response you can give is to bend down and study extensively. When you take your studies seriously and push yourself above your limit, and achieve excellence, your success will reply them. Your success and your growth will become the best reply you need. Work in silence, and let the result and your success do the talking.
By choosing not to revenge, you remain focused on the things that matter. More often than not, the enemies thrives when you are distracted, so they bring offences to make you distracted. But the moment you make up your mind to neither seek revenge nor become offended, you break their manipulative strategies. When you ignore their bait and keep working towards becoming a better person, you will beat them at their own game without even fighting. This is by proving to them that you are bigger than their pettiness. If someone baits you to fight under the rain with them, if you do, you will get drenched with them. Do not allow anyone to drag you to their petty level and manipulate you into doing what you would not be proud of.
Grace also elevates you in the sight of others. People will see it and admire the way you control your emotions. Good people are normally attracted to the people who know how to control their emotions instead of acting on impulse. The world is full of people who are reactive to situations, but just a few people actually have the composure to walk away when negative situation presents itself. It is not because they are weak to handle it, but because they choose their actions wisely, and not all battles deserve their attention.
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