In this very present world, a lot of people are so much concerned with perfection that they feel that the thought of flaws already means failure. People now need the perfect job, perfect career, perfect time, and even perfect guy or lady. What they fail to understand is that their flaw does not make them a failure nor does it mean that they are not valuable. Every human is different in their own way. These are part of what make them authentic and unique. This is why you have to accept yourself the way you are and not focus on faking perfection or hiding flaws.
You will be surprised that a lot of people spend almost their whole time trying to hide their flaws and imperfections, thinking that their values, confidence, and acceptance are tied to being perfect. Trust me, even the people you are trying to form perfection for are not even perfect themselves. You have to understand that a lot of the people who have inspired others to greatness are not the most perfect. In fact, some of them have scares from years of battle. They are not perfect, but they were able to embrace themselves and their flaws, and then shined through them. You cannot prevent the dark night from coming, you can only shine through it by introducing light. Same way, you cannot hide imperfections, but you can choose to make a headway through them.
The journey to self-acceptance starts when you stop treating your flaws and your imperfections as your enemies and rather see them as part of your success story. The scares, the errors, the hard times, the mistakes, the weakness, and the flaws are all there to teach you to become better and also reach for greatness. The idea is not to assume perfection, but to keep getting better as the days go by. If you are better today than you were yesterday, then you have obviously made progress and you are on the right track. Some of these things you call flaws are part of what shape your character, deepens your strength, and even helps you to develop empathy. Of course, when you know that you are not perfect, you will not expect perfection from someone else.
One of the very inspirational and motivational speakers that I admire a lot is Nick Vujicic. He was born with a condition that others would call congenital flaw or imperfections - without both arms and both legs. Yet he did not allow these "flaws" to limit him or to create a negative identity for him. Rather he used it for his advantage to motivate people. He embraced who he is and made a name for himself. He now travels the world, inspiring millions of people across the world to accept themselves as they are, and live with purpose. What others would have seen as a flaw was what he built the foundation of his message on. This video of him is so inspiring to say the least.
Trust me, perfection itself is an illusion. The people you admire so much have something about them that they could not change but they accept it the way it is. You have a choice to either allow your flaws to define you or to love yourself the way you are. The point you discover that your imperfections are not pointing towards failure, but are part of your symbol of humanity, you will become practically unstoppable. When you accept your flaws, the urge to compare yourself with others will reduce or be eliminated completely. You will learn not to fit into a mold that was not even made for you in the first place.
Instead of being sad and sulking over your flaws, it will do you good to focus on the little things that make you to stand out, and appreciate them - like the way you smile, your cooking skills, your thought pattern, etc. There is something within you that makes you uniquely different, and makes you valuable; this is what you should focus on more and work on it to become better. Always remember that your flaws are not the reason why you have not succeeded, but the way you perceive them. After all, the rough edges of the diamond are part of the reasons why it shines.
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