First, contrary to popular beliefs and the narcissistic egomaniac image propounded in the society, saying sorry for your mistakes is NOT a sign of weakness. We are all human beings and human beings err. We all mistakes. It is a sign of our humanity and it is something that should not only be acceptable, but also in fact, celebrated and encouraged. Without mistakes most of us can't learn some things perfectly.
Like T.S ELiot said, To arrive at a place of Knowledge you must go by a way which is the way of ignorance. Everyone we call experts in any field today are people who have been brave enough to try things no one has tried before, and who were not afraid to make a mistake along the way.
And this is why once a mistake is made; I mean the kind of mistake that affect a person or a lot of people around you in a negative way, the thing to do is apologize immediately. Not apologizing, in fact, is THE sign of not only weakness and cowardice, but complete stupidity.
Above I wrote that the answer to that question is that "it depends". I said that for the following reasons:
One: Incessant Apology is a madness. I say incessant apologies to mean continually apologizing for the same shortcoming over and over in an exasperating way. Nobody like this, and frankly this just shows a lack of self confidence and lack of self worth in the person doing the apologizing. If you really put your heart into an apology and show the true remorse in your heart, you don't even have to say a word, or a lot of words, to make people undertsand and forgive you.
Second, constant apologies. By this I mean making the same or diffrent mistakes over and over again, and then apologizing every time hoping this solves everything and the sky is blue and all is well with the world.
This is stupid and weak. Again this may even be on purpose and a lot of people have been known to do this to exploit some people whose meek nature makes them accept apologies easily. So people offend them continually on purpose knowing that just saying sorry all over again would make things right. No it shouldn't. This is weak and appalling.
That all depends on how and why you used the word 'sorry'.
If you had made a mistake and are genuinely remorseful of this and the effects on another, then admitting that mistake is a huge sign of someone taking personal responsibility and as such, is far from being a weakness. It is in fact a huge strength in your character, but...
If you are someone who apologises for everything, saying sorry to appease whether you made a mistake or not or if you aren't really sorry for something but saying it simply because it will make the other person happy, perhaps to appease them by removing their guilt or blame, then it is a huge weakness.
Under these circumstances, it is false, a lie and thats not good. You may get the desired effect from the appeasement, but it will be temporary, and next time, and the time after, youll find it easier to say sorry for something thats not your fault simply for a simpler and more peaceful life. People may then expect you to take responsibility for things that arent your fault, they will treat you with deeper and deeper contempt and your own self esteem will crash. This is a bad situation and an unhealthy relationship and only hurts both parties.
Sorry if youre truly sorry is very good, sorry if youre not or it isnt your fault is extremely bad.
The word sorry is a five-lettered word. As simple as it seems, it has solved a whole lot of problems in the past and it's still doing so today. Simple problems escalate because the offending party is too proud to admit mistakes and apologize. I've seen good friends drift apart because of a silly mistake. Inability of the offender to say sorry. Marriages are shattered for this same reason. Nations go into war for this cause too.
To tell someone you're sorry is a sign that you admit your faults and you're willing to make amends. Its a sign of maturity. A sign of strength. It shows that you value the other person more than your ego. It shows that you're ready to walk in the path of peace. Even the Bible says that a soft answer turns away wrath and harsh words stir up anger.
Its quite unfortunate that we live in a world that applauds wrong over right. A society that thinks that apologizing over your wrongs or misdeed is weakness. It celebrates people who do wrong and get away with it, making it seem like the new pattern. You are strong for owing up to your mistakes. You are stronger for apologizing for it.
Growing up, i was taught the fundamental etiquette that one needs to have. I was taught to say thank you for gifts or help received, to say please when making polite requests and sorry when I offend people. It has saved my head a whole lot of times. Over the years, it became so easy for me to do that because it is a habit cultivated over time. A lot of people wonder how I manage to escape certain troubles. It simply the miracle word I'm sorry.
Sorry is a word with healing balm. It has the ability to restore broken relationships. You feel better doing it too because it relieves your mind from guilt and worry. When you say you're sorry, it doesn't undo what has been done. It shows that you acknowledge how the other person feels because of what you've said or done and you feel bad that you made them feel that way.
However, a lot of people have misused the word. They are never truly sorry because they keep repeating the offense. They think "sorry " is cheap. They deliberately hurt people because they can always apologize. For instance, a man beats up his wife and apologizes. Again, he is provoked and hits her and apologizes. It becomes a pattern. When you do this often, people will lose confidence in you. They will stop trusting your words. For cases like this, sorry is not enough. When you say you're sorry it's important that you retrace your steps.
The world is already messed up with broken, angry and impatient folks. People act before they even get to think about it. So many others would not even give a backward glance. That's sad. You can choose to be different. Choose to walk. the path of peace. In the path of love. Choose to say sorry when the need arises.
It depends, sorry can be said in different ways, for instance:
Sorry can be said too often, and when it is not needed, for things that are beyond your control. For instance people who say sorry for what other people, with whom they have nothing to do, do. This is a sign of victim mentality, and is not the best behavior, and is passive agressive.
Sorry can be said in an agressive way, to enforce ones opinion in a conversation, as in "Yeah ok, sorry, but..."
But if sorry is said in a sincere and honest way, at the correct moment, and in the correct context, sorry is one of the most strong words that exist. Saying sorry like this shows you accept that you made a mistake, and you own it. You take responsibility for it, and you apologise for it. This allows the other party, the one you say sorry to, to deal with the issue for which you are appologising. You show them that you feel the troubles your actions created for them, you show them that you care.
Saying sorry shows strength, responsibility, and empathy.
Its a sign of strength. Have you ever heard the saying "It takes a big man to say he's sorry"?
This is generally stated when the other person realizes just how difficult it was for someone to say their sorry and yet they did.
Even though we have sayings like that where we realize its difficult and shows strength of character to do so it can still be looked upon as a sign of weakness.
It can be seen in some cultures as weakness as it generally involves giving up some strength or position in a group dynamic.
People will think what they will of you regardless. I believe it is better to simply be the best you can be and ignore them. My motto for 50 years has been
Love me, hate me, makes no difference to me.
I will apologize when I feel its necessary, I will live my life according what I believe makes me a good person and that doesn't make me ashamed of myself.
And that is all that is important (to me at least).
If other people my saying sorry or refuse to say it themselves as they perceive it to be a sign of weakness, that is their issue to overcome, not mine.
I will continue saying it when the situation warrants it to be said.
Admitting a mistake is never a sign of weakness, it's a sign of strength, confidence and the ability to take and admit the responsibility over your own actions.
Forgiveness is one of the things that is difficult to do.
Especially if the person who apologizes has made a big mistake, it is certainly more difficult to apologize.
Forgiveness is the best medicine.
Research reveals that releasing or forgiving people who have done wrong can heal you emotionally and physically.
1. Forgiveness Is the Best Gift for You
Did you know that meeting someone who causes your disappointment and anger is a powerful remedy for forgiveness.
Forgiveness does not mean showing that you are weak.
By forgiving, your feelings will be better and it will also be good for your physical.
2. Forgive According to Research
As founder of the International Forgiveness Institute and author of The Forgiving Life and 8 Key to Forgiveness, Enright has been researching forgiveness forces for three decades.
Forgiveness will make you avoid anger that will poison your body.
In a 2009 study, Enright found results that forgive, you increase blood flow to the heart.
3. Reducing the Risk of Disease
The Society of Behavioral presents that forgiveness can improve the immune system.
Even by forgiving, you can avoid insomnia.
4. Forgiveness Project
A former journalist, Maria Cantacuzino is the founder and director of The Forgiveness Project, a site and exhibition series that uses personal stories to explore the possibility of forgiveness.
Forgiveness is not just forgiving and apologizing, but rather saying what happened and being able to accept all of that.
Forgiveness is the release of all hope for a better future.
Being SORRY or saying SORRY doesn't mean you are weak, it just meant that you are matured enough to let go conflicts and violence. Sorry is that simple word that has caused a lifetime destruction in peoples life, In schools, At work, In marriage and so many aspect of life.
This same SORRY is that word that has settled more than millions of upcoming violence, that has built so many marriage and safe the kids the experience of broken family.
Learning to say SORRY is very good but not only when you are at fault. And we shouldn't just say sorry, we should show it in our action that we are actually SORRY.
Actually being able to say sorry is a strength and shows what type of person you are.
Sorry is a big thing to say and to mean it. Lots of people say sorry but aren't actually sorry. They say it to get out of trouble but don't mean it. If you are genuinely sorry you understand what has happened and where something has gone wrong and are genuinely remorseful for your mistake.
No one likes to admit to doing something wrong and it takes a strong character to admit this. by saying sorry it is admitting you are not perfect and should be forgiven for whatever mistake or mistakes you have done.
I say sorry fairly often and I genuinely mean them as i don't do things that are wrong on purpose. I will stick up my hand if I have done something wrong. We learn from our mistakes and it is not done on purpose.
These days it is rare to hear someone say they are sorry as they normally keep quiet and won't admit to whatever they have done wrong. A true person with a strong character will step forward and say SORRY.
It depends.
First, contrary to popular beliefs and the narcissistic egomaniac image propounded in the society, saying sorry for your mistakes is NOT a sign of weakness. We are all human beings and human beings err. We all mistakes. It is a sign of our humanity and it is something that should not only be acceptable, but also in fact, celebrated and encouraged. Without mistakes most of us can't learn some things perfectly.
Like T.S ELiot said, To arrive at a place of Knowledge you must go by a way which is the way of ignorance. Everyone we call experts in any field today are people who have been brave enough to try things no one has tried before, and who were not afraid to make a mistake along the way.
And this is why once a mistake is made; I mean the kind of mistake that affect a person or a lot of people around you in a negative way, the thing to do is apologize immediately. Not apologizing, in fact, is THE sign of not only weakness and cowardice, but complete stupidity.
Even the most renowned men and women in our communities have been known to apologize anytime they fall short in a way or or another. Even athletes, known for their unfettered egomanias, have been known to apologize for their mistakes, (check out Kyrie Irving's recent apology for saying that the earth is flat lol https://www.google.com.ng/url?sa=t&source=web&rct=j&url=http://kwese.espn.com/nba/story/_/id/24863899/kyrie-irving-boston-celtics-apologizes-saying-earth-flat%3Fplatform%3Damp&ved=2ahUKEwi1qcDkuerdAhWDN8AKHTlOC80QiJQBMAB6BAgJEAQ&usg=AOvVaw3s4TACbtlWf0Q3v4zsLkXf&cf=1). Hell, even presidents of countries have apologized in one way or another for one thing or another.
Now having said that,
Above I wrote that the answer to that question is that "it depends". I said that for the following reasons:
One: Incessant Apology is a madness. I say incessant apologies to mean continually apologizing for the same shortcoming over and over in an exasperating way. Nobody like this, and frankly this just shows a lack of self confidence and lack of self worth in the person doing the apologizing. If you really put your heart into an apology and show the true remorse in your heart, you don't even have to say a word, or a lot of words, to make people undertsand and forgive you.
Second, constant apologies. By this I mean making the same or diffrent mistakes over and over again, and then apologizing every time hoping this solves everything and the sky is blue and all is well with the world.
This is stupid and weak. Again this may even be on purpose and a lot of people have been known to do this to exploit some people whose meek nature makes them accept apologies easily. So people offend them continually on purpose knowing that just saying sorry all over again would make things right. No it shouldn't. This is weak and appalling.
That all depends on how and why you used the word 'sorry'.
If you had made a mistake and are genuinely remorseful of this and the effects on another, then admitting that mistake is a huge sign of someone taking personal responsibility and as such, is far from being a weakness. It is in fact a huge strength in your character, but...
If you are someone who apologises for everything, saying sorry to appease whether you made a mistake or not or if you aren't really sorry for something but saying it simply because it will make the other person happy, perhaps to appease them by removing their guilt or blame, then it is a huge weakness.
Under these circumstances, it is false, a lie and thats not good. You may get the desired effect from the appeasement, but it will be temporary, and next time, and the time after, youll find it easier to say sorry for something thats not your fault simply for a simpler and more peaceful life. People may then expect you to take responsibility for things that arent your fault, they will treat you with deeper and deeper contempt and your own self esteem will crash. This is a bad situation and an unhealthy relationship and only hurts both parties.
Sorry if youre truly sorry is very good, sorry if youre not or it isnt your fault is extremely bad.
Hope this helps and great question. Thanks :-)
The word sorry is a five-lettered word. As simple as it seems, it has solved a whole lot of problems in the past and it's still doing so today. Simple problems escalate because the offending party is too proud to admit mistakes and apologize. I've seen good friends drift apart because of a silly mistake. Inability of the offender to say sorry. Marriages are shattered for this same reason. Nations go into war for this cause too.
To tell someone you're sorry is a sign that you admit your faults and you're willing to make amends. Its a sign of maturity. A sign of strength. It shows that you value the other person more than your ego. It shows that you're ready to walk in the path of peace. Even the Bible says that a soft answer turns away wrath and harsh words stir up anger.
Its quite unfortunate that we live in a world that applauds wrong over right. A society that thinks that apologizing over your wrongs or misdeed is weakness. It celebrates people who do wrong and get away with it, making it seem like the new pattern. You are strong for owing up to your mistakes. You are stronger for apologizing for it.
Growing up, i was taught the fundamental etiquette that one needs to have. I was taught to say thank you for gifts or help received, to say please when making polite requests and sorry when I offend people. It has saved my head a whole lot of times. Over the years, it became so easy for me to do that because it is a habit cultivated over time. A lot of people wonder how I manage to escape certain troubles. It simply the miracle word I'm sorry.
Sorry is a word with healing balm. It has the ability to restore broken relationships. You feel better doing it too because it relieves your mind from guilt and worry. When you say you're sorry, it doesn't undo what has been done. It shows that you acknowledge how the other person feels because of what you've said or done and you feel bad that you made them feel that way.
However, a lot of people have misused the word. They are never truly sorry because they keep repeating the offense. They think "sorry " is cheap. They deliberately hurt people because they can always apologize. For instance, a man beats up his wife and apologizes. Again, he is provoked and hits her and apologizes. It becomes a pattern. When you do this often, people will lose confidence in you. They will stop trusting your words. For cases like this, sorry is not enough. When you say you're sorry it's important that you retrace your steps.
The world is already messed up with broken, angry and impatient folks. People act before they even get to think about it. So many others would not even give a backward glance. That's sad. You can choose to be different. Choose to walk. the path of peace. In the path of love. Choose to say sorry when the need arises.
It depends, sorry can be said in different ways, for instance:
Sorry can be said too often, and when it is not needed, for things that are beyond your control. For instance people who say sorry for what other people, with whom they have nothing to do, do. This is a sign of victim mentality, and is not the best behavior, and is passive agressive.
Sorry can be said in an agressive way, to enforce ones opinion in a conversation, as in "Yeah ok, sorry, but..."
But if sorry is said in a sincere and honest way, at the correct moment, and in the correct context, sorry is one of the most strong words that exist. Saying sorry like this shows you accept that you made a mistake, and you own it. You take responsibility for it, and you apologise for it. This allows the other party, the one you say sorry to, to deal with the issue for which you are appologising. You show them that you feel the troubles your actions created for them, you show them that you care.
Saying sorry shows strength, responsibility, and empathy.
Actually the opposite.
Its a sign of strength. Have you ever heard the saying "It takes a big man to say he's sorry"?
This is generally stated when the other person realizes just how difficult it was for someone to say their sorry and yet they did.
Even though we have sayings like that where we realize its difficult and shows strength of character to do so it can still be looked upon as a sign of weakness.
It can be seen in some cultures as weakness as it generally involves giving up some strength or position in a group dynamic.
People will think what they will of you regardless. I believe it is better to simply be the best you can be and ignore them. My motto for 50 years has been
Love me, hate me, makes no difference to me.
I will apologize when I feel its necessary, I will live my life according what I believe makes me a good person and that doesn't make me ashamed of myself.
And that is all that is important (to me at least).
If other people my saying sorry or refuse to say it themselves as they perceive it to be a sign of weakness, that is their issue to overcome, not mine.
I will continue saying it when the situation warrants it to be said.
Admitting a mistake is never a sign of weakness, it's a sign of strength, confidence and the ability to take and admit the responsibility over your own actions.
Forgiveness is one of the things that is difficult to do.
Especially if the person who apologizes has made a big mistake, it is certainly more difficult to apologize.
Forgiveness is the best medicine.
Research reveals that releasing or forgiving people who have done wrong can heal you emotionally and physically.
1. Forgiveness Is the Best Gift for You
Did you know that meeting someone who causes your disappointment and anger is a powerful remedy for forgiveness.
Forgiveness does not mean showing that you are weak.
By forgiving, your feelings will be better and it will also be good for your physical.
2. Forgive According to Research
As founder of the International Forgiveness Institute and author of The Forgiving Life and 8 Key to Forgiveness, Enright has been researching forgiveness forces for three decades.
Forgiveness will make you avoid anger that will poison your body.
In a 2009 study, Enright found results that forgive, you increase blood flow to the heart.
3. Reducing the Risk of Disease
The Society of Behavioral presents that forgiveness can improve the immune system.
Even by forgiving, you can avoid insomnia.
4. Forgiveness Project
A former journalist, Maria Cantacuzino is the founder and director of The Forgiveness Project, a site and exhibition series that uses personal stories to explore the possibility of forgiveness.
Forgiveness is not just forgiving and apologizing, but rather saying what happened and being able to accept all of that.
Forgiveness is the release of all hope for a better future.
Sorry is never a Sign of weakness.
Being SORRY or saying SORRY doesn't mean you are weak, it just meant that you are matured enough to let go conflicts and violence. Sorry is that simple word that has caused a lifetime destruction in peoples life, In schools, At work, In marriage and so many aspect of life.
This same SORRY is that word that has settled more than millions of upcoming violence, that has built so many marriage and safe the kids the experience of broken family.
Learning to say SORRY is very good but not only when you are at fault. And we shouldn't just say sorry, we should show it in our action that we are actually SORRY.
Actually being able to say sorry is a strength and shows what type of person you are.
Sorry is a big thing to say and to mean it. Lots of people say sorry but aren't actually sorry. They say it to get out of trouble but don't mean it. If you are genuinely sorry you understand what has happened and where something has gone wrong and are genuinely remorseful for your mistake.
No one likes to admit to doing something wrong and it takes a strong character to admit this. by saying sorry it is admitting you are not perfect and should be forgiven for whatever mistake or mistakes you have done.
I say sorry fairly often and I genuinely mean them as i don't do things that are wrong on purpose. I will stick up my hand if I have done something wrong. We learn from our mistakes and it is not done on purpose.
These days it is rare to hear someone say they are sorry as they normally keep quiet and won't admit to whatever they have done wrong. A true person with a strong character will step forward and say SORRY.