It never is too late to change ourselves and honestly all that matters is that we try our best & challenge ourselves to do operate in a peaceful way ~ especially when so many of “us” weren’t raised in peaceful households is what I’m coming to find out from the peaceful parenting groups on Facebook. We’re about two years “into” peaceful parenting/rejecting separation and I still don’t know how to handle everything that comes our way but communication usually saves the day if Im struggling :) I think (for me) I came to the conclusion that my flighty urge to restrict my daughter when she was a toddler by shouting “no!” actually really meant “wow this is really making me nervous” or “im overwhelmed by what’s happening” or “that is a terror bow idea” or whatever along those lines when I got down to the root of it. My kids have taught me so much about myself and what it means to view them as the beautiful, equal human beings they are along the way <3
I think 9 month twins would feel overwhelming at times too! Don’t beat yourself up. It definitely makes things much more peaceful to put up/block off the dangerous things but honestly I go around picking up dangerous sh** all day because we fulltime RV with limited space. Though even the other day our daughter who’s nearly 10 scared me when she was slightly electrocuted when she decided to plug in the ipad while we were over at grandma & grandpas because they happen live in the original house built on a homestead which has ancient wiring. She was ok but it was a scary lesson learned nonetheless. So glad we could cross paths! I browsed your blog and Im excited to go back and read
Those are really good points. When I raise my voice I should be asking myself why and how am I feeling in this moment. I sure hope you continue writing about parenting. I haven't looked for much on peaceful or attached parenting here on Steemit but I really should.
So how many of you are living in the RV? We were living in a tiny house (200sq ft. Plus lofts) up until about a month and a half ago. We thought the tiny house would be plenty with one baby but our twins took us by surprise and we outgrew the house faster than we expected (or wanted). Battling the ever changing living room space, with a soggy foot mat, crawling babies, and winter keeping us trapped indoors just became too much. We have moved in with my parents temporarily while we plan to build a "bigger" small house and establish a homestead. After all it takes a village, right?
Thanks for the follow, we hope you enjoy the articles! I am glad we crossed paths too. -Aimee
I can’t tell you how nice it is to connect with like-minded / like-journeying people, wherever found! It's a pleasure Aimee:) I wasn’t sure if or how long it would take on Steemit before having real conversations with anyone because it's a little bit discouraging to see all the one-sentence bot comments.
I think that’s awesome that you’re flexible and making sacrifices to achieve your collective dream ~ do whats best ❤ Im really happy that you aren’t giving up and you’re finding another way to make it work. I know that some of the best choices we made for our family weren’t always clear or easy in our tiny living choices, especially in Washington with the mold issue of the camper at the time. I really didn’t want to move into an expensive apartment as alternative housing but with the housing laws it wasn’t possible or legal for a family of 4 to rent a kitchenette or even a one bedroom, and our choices were even more limited by having a large breed dog. So we were thankful to get into the first astronomically priced place we could and kept our head above water there as long as we had to and now we’re back into tiny life but better this time around. So, hey, kudos to you guys for also going back to "do it" better! It’s 4 of us in our 30' 5th wheel now along with a cat, dog, and a guinea pig (who lives outside until it becomes cold at night we bring her inside.) It's mostly wood flooring and has a 14' slideout and is DRY ~ mold-free! :) All we need is a patch of land to move it onto now or trade in our vehicles for a truck to move it onto a communal living type of situation that we also dream of. Yes it takes a village!
I was surprised how quickly I was able to connect with like-minded individuals too! Truthfully, I was on F-book a lot, mostly in moms groups, and Matt kept encouraging me to try Steemit. I didn't take long to transition over. There is so much good content here on Steemit and the community is incredibly supportive.
We always shake our heads at the bureaucracy surrounding housing. We've modified our own plans because of it too. Between inflation and taxes, more people than not seem to be having a hard time keeping their heads above water - us included. When we were renting we could never seem to save enough money to buy property or a house. I don't think we're overly frivolous with our spending either. Wages aren't keeping up with inflation or taxes so it's no wonder more people are downsizing. Of course, instead of recognizing this issue and working towards rectifying it the government just imposes more laws that restrict people from living within their means. I always used to hear the saying the rich get richer, and the poor get poorer when I was in school, but now I feel like I am living it. That said, we are determined to get our homestead operational so we can grow our own food, be self reliant, and drastically reduce our money worries.
I am so glad to hear you are living in a comfortable and mold free home now! I don't know how you do it with a large dog inside though. I think it's funny that your tiniest animal ended up outside! Ha ha! I wish you the best in finding the perfect property. -Aimee