It's not easy to make the case that even if we are self sabotaging we might be doing so with positive intent. Meaning that sometimes your brain is trying to protect itself from succeeding and putting yourself in a position of needing to continue to do so.
It sounds outrageous to say it sometimes, but many of us actually fear success, and it's a way that we ultimately try to protect ourselves from what we perceive could be an even bigger failure, a bigger disappointment.
As much as it might be productive to attempt to think about all those times we have self sabotaged ourselves, it might be more effective to start recognizing today the negative behaviors and maybe change some core beliefs we might hold.
Believing that money is evil for example, or believing that the game is rigged against you because you hold no position of power, is in many circumstances disguised ideas of self sabotage. These thoughts become a way to excuse inaction, a way to ignore the fact that we are not powerless, but the opposite, we own our truth.
We can all benefit from interrupting those old patterns, and questioning some of these ideas and maybe letting go of this fear and the beliefs that keep it alive.
Hope everyone had a beautiful weekend
good writing~
Exactly. I like the length of the post. It's not too long and not too short. :)
Keep it up!
Success is the journey so to speak. It's the 'climb'. If there's no resistance at all, we wouldn't have to call it a success. I think that's what's scary. - Having to endure the pain of success.
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:) This is a very well-written comment. So much so that it looks like it's a compilation from those quote sites. I don't intend to say that you plagiarized it, but that it's a pretty good word selection.
What I didn't understand was your formatting on it, lol. > is for quotes and * is for enumerations, but you used them to stylize. There are other style tools such as <strong> and <em>. There's even # and ##; you could make some part bigger. I've seen some who do this and it's not that bad :) Definitely better than semantic misuse.
Self sabotage to me is quite destructive, that's why we need to figure out how we deal with negative thinking. I usually meditate and keep busying myself to prevent self sabotage and negative thinking.
okay you need to know that self-sabotage is a form of self protection, from what you may ask? from the unknown it keeps you safe to do the same things over and over, the only way to beat it is to smile and say convincingly out loud i can do this or even better say i've done this before and imagine doing it simple right? :)
Enough with the sappy self sabotage b.s. Fuck so called success, it's underrated
Great thoughts in this article.
Many self sabotage without knowing it!
Many people are afraid of success and do not realize that they have the qualities to achieve it. Fears come from the uncertain, wondering if they will fail in the eyes of their loved ones and before them.
LOL. This is the ultimate money meme. Close the vaults.
Nice post!
Well said @chbartist....
Our notion and perception really has a strong effect on how things will be for us
I believe in positivity and optimism....they are the instrument of success and self satisfaction. Believing strongly in one self is sure a good start to a good finish
Following you @chbartist. Another great topic!
Today, I posted a blog about being 100% responsible for your life, I think, to avoid self-sabotage has a lot to do with that responsibility factor. I will share it here-- https://steemit.com/blog/@tressareid/you-are-100-responsible-for-your-life-try-this-exercise
Thank you! All the best!
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Nice write up
I suppose you could say that in a way the reason people fear success is that deep down they know that if they were to succeed, that would entail a greater load to bear..therefore greater responsibility. And who wants that right? ;)
Being able to reboot our own programs and rid ourselves of self-defeating behaviours is one of the greatest challenges many of us face. Sharing with each other can help give us helpful tools so I thank you for sharing your own insights. Best wishes
I think people also fear the hard work that comes with achieving success, so they avoid it
I'm not sure that I totally agree with lots of specifics things in this. But it made me smile (you know why). And I think there is something to the idea of self-sabotage.
This is such a beautifully crafted piece and I totally agree with you on this. I will also add that the concept of fear gradually hibernates our mind and as such we live but are so unproductive. So borrowing a lead from Newton's Third law of motion, which states that to every action, there's and equal and opposite reaction, we can set our minds free of this unproductive hibernation and rise to our full potential with optimism, zeal and appropriate reactions to success. Beautiful piece I must say @chbartist
What would you think it'd be the best way to change our beliefs to achieve better results?
I say it is time we start living a pragmatic life insteadnof a dogmatic one created by the society who dont know what we are capable of doing at our best.
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beautifully said...
Hidden truth about Human psychology.
How can i let go of this fear and the beliefs that keeps these fear alive?
With deep thought, as with any belief. Analyze their core, their reason to exist and how justified they are. Once you start doing this on a regular basis with every belief that seems a bit counter-intuitive, you'll reach a decent level where you can improve yourself on your own.
it's not easy but it's very cool bro
a very good post
we are many sometimes hesitant to ourselves, but one of the keys to success we have to believe in ourselves, whatever happens to us, we must remain at our stance, my friend thanks
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Nice posting @chbartist
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Okay, this was insightful. However, still no answer as to how one could overcome that fear. Yet, I think you made me realize that I indeed do fear a bigger failure. Thanks for the post.
Good piece. very interesting piece.
Self sabotage is a kind of a defence mechanism just like you said, this is something that we develop as we grow up, we have to interrupt them the main question is how - I think taking a look back to the causes is the way. Thank you for this lovely thought.
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Seems folk will either looks for excuses to fail of opportunities to succeed.
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Damn. Definitely spoke to my soul a bit there.
When it is successful, people will demand more and expectations will increase.
Meeting these expectations will also require energy and time. (There is also the fear of not meeting expectations, but this is not a success, but fear of failure.)
People who are not prepared to meet these expectations may be afraid of success.
I like the article very much. Thank you for the beautiful letter.
always pleasure to read your post sir @chbartist
You're very right. For years I've been fighting those behaviors, but it seems that every time a new project launch is actually coming up, I find ways to delay and avoid it. Success is a very frightening thing, I'm not sure why, but we would all be much better if we learn to fight and change those behaviors and deal with those fears.
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Nice write up
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