"As for how you address people, if you don't address people how they want to be addressed, (as long as we're talking names and genders) you're just a dick. Don't be a dick. Sure, you have the right to free speech and decent people have a right to leave you to people who enjoy your company if you can find them."
I'm gonna try to be nice with this one and it may sound ironic, but...You are kinda being a dick, by telling people to not be a dick. At least that's how I interpret it. I'm sure you are going to disagree with me, but that is the problem when dealing with "subjective" issues. Sometimes there is no definitive right or wrong answer.