Don't destroy yourself by allowing negative people to add gibberish and debris to your character, reputation, and aspirations. Keep all dreams alive but discreet, so that those with unhealthy tongues won't have any other option than to infest themselves with their own diseases.” ― Michael Bassey Johnson
It really doesn’t matter who you are or where you go in this life, you are ALWAYS going to encounter negative individuals that want to bring you down, see you fall, rile you up or just plain irritate you - and it is very easy to get roped into their world but at the end of the day, when you respond to negativity with more negativity… you are only creating a vicious cycle – and the fact of the matter is, it NEVER leaves you feeling any better about anything, least of all yourself for your actions if they too, were negative.
There is an expression which I quite like – You don’t need to attend every argument you are invited to - and it is so, SO true… but I think we often forget that.
“Some people are in such utter darkness that they will burn you just to see a light. Try not to take it personally.” ― Kamand Kojouri
Whether it is an attempt at starting an argument with you, someone who is belittling you, spreading rumour and/or lies, putting you down or anything else remotely related… you do not have to respond to it, engage with it or even acknowledge it. You ALWAYS have a choice as to how best to handle the situation and/or person and for the most part, in those instances it makes a whole lot more sense to turn around and walk in the other direction. Don’t let them get under your skin as DIFFICULT as that may be!!! I guarantee you that when you take the higher road, there is a lot less regret attached.
When tempers run high or hurt is acutely present, it can be a great challenge to turn the other cheek, but lowering yourself to the levels of those who consciously choose to break others down, is most definitely not a solution with a positive result!
“weeding out the harmful influences should become the norm not the exception.” ― Carlos Wallace
It is through life’s harshest experiences and toughest challenges that this mindset is born... And it is most certainly one that I choose to adopt. Now don’t get me wrong or misconstrue what I am saying... This does not mean that I don’t have an opinion
or that certain things don’t upset me etc. It simply means that wherever I can, I make a conscious decision to walk away from situations when I can see that they are clearly heading nowhere other than South.
Negativity and negative people have a handy knack of embroiling you into their world of bitterness, resentment, turmoil and despair... And once you step so much as a toe into that abyss, you will most likely look again and find that you fell in completely... Your entire energetic frequency has lowered, your ego begins to dominate and before you know it, you are feeling angry, bitter, frustrated etc. And this then starts to filter into the rest of your immediate environment. So why opt for that route In the first place?! Well, I don’t think it is always done consciously...
Negative people and circumstance can be very enormously cunning and manipulative... For the most part, you will need to check yourself... Stop and say “do I really want to be a part of this?” Upon objective reflection you will most likely realise that it is not actually in your best interest, but the challenge comes in the turning around and walking the other way.
I find that some times are easier than others, but the fact remains that every time I succeed at this, I am very thankful after. My life is comprised of my choices, and I definitely choose NOT to fill it with negativity... So I will say what I want to say (if anything) and then, keep on walking... and if that leaves me being misread or misunderstood - well, tough!
People will say and do what they want irrespective - there is no sense in allowing any of it into your sphere of being.
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Hello, @jaynie, what a pleasure to read, I had time that I did not find something good that made me reflect, I liked the quotes you used and especially your own reflections, I wish there were more people in the world who think a little like you.
When I observe something negative, that I can not change it, I simply think that it is perfect as it is, because everything is in perfect harmony, and I do not know if I am self-decepting or is my way of staying protected from the environment or negative situation.
but I prefer to think that God is in control of everything, even the negative.
Thank you for your post. Greetings.
What a lovely thing to say, thank you! As for your mindset, I think you are observing and accepting things with a healthy respect. You accept that you may not like it, but that "it is there" and you cannot change that. You have the RIGHT approach to life! So, I could also say to you.. I wish there were more people like YOU around! So many people are so quick to judge others and cast people aside because they don't "like or agree" with them and/or the way they operate. The world needs more respect in general!
I divorced my husband because of his negativity more than any other factor. Life is too short!
GOOD for you!!!! me too haha!!! jinx lol ;)
"Negative people and circumstance can be very enormously cunning and manipulative... For the most part, you will need to check yourself... Stop and say “do I really want to be a part of this?” Upon objective reflection you will most likely realise that it is not actually in your best interest, but the challenge comes in the turning around and walking the other way."
And here is an absolute truth that so many of us don't understand!
They become manipulative masters with an arsenal of attacks and excuses, and most times we fall for it as their aim is either for us to share in their misery, or to destroy us! And of course they are always innocent and victims when caught out.
A deadly cancer on two feet that should be avoided at all costs and if a chance encounter occurs, even though it hurts, a happy smile and thank you while you walk away simply infuriates them so much that they rush about in a frenzy to attract others to support their sick visions about you.
A negative person is like a dripping tap of venom that will surely poison you if you drink from it!
Walk away and live a happy life regardless of what is said to, or about you.
Just my own thoughts and experience here and I agree 100% with this post.
Been there many times at the fences of sick jealousy.
Blessings!
This has become VERY close to home recently and boy, are you on the money!
Oh! But I hope that you have nipped it in the bud, as we always have these close shaves. I am sure that heaven selects us for it to keep on sharpening us Lol Many times have I wondered why always me?
Until I embraced and accepted it, then only things started to level out a bit. Some of us are tough nuts, more of the macadamia kind lol.
So we need more cracking than others hahaha
Have a nice evening madame and greet little Jude for us!
Blessings!
hahaha so true! and yes, I nipped it in the bud very quickly! It took a lot out of me emotionally to stay true, fair and actually "do it" - but I did - and now that emotional wave has passed, I am ever grateful I did! (not surprisingly). Somehow, everything just feels lighter and brighter now... so on that note, onward and upward!!!!
Amazing how sensitive our emotions have become isn't it?
The thing is that if we drive something with passion, like I di with Papillon, our passion is so much deeper that a "normal" person's.
Almost to the point of death and if ANY negativity of any nature is directed at us, it is murder in our own eyes.
Our intensity is also way, way above normal to the point of light insanity, simply because we care so much about what we do.
One of the reasons why I have learned to recognize this and decided to withdraw myself to work in the background. I am hell on wheels when I get riled and I simply try to avoid anger as much as I can.
Wise asses are ten a penny and my trick is to just laugh at them and at myself when I feel that somebody is trying to work me up.
It drives the dark crazy which makes me happy.
Hopefully you will see where I am coming from whenever I communicate with you and that will as usual not be too often as I like to give busy beings space Lol
A blessed Sunday to you guys!
What a truth you have just spoken!
Glad that you liked it!
Have a good Monday!
Blessings!
I think one should just wish them well and then walk away.
and that would be the best decision ever made!
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